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So I'm 15 years old and I've been wanting to go on birth control for a little while now, however when I first mentioned it to my mum she said there was no point because I hadn't really been in a long term relationship for a while. Good point, so I just left it alone. Two months ago I got back into a relationship with my first boyfriend (we broke up over a year ago prier), and because we did it the first time we dated, we went back to being sexual with each other. All good no problems and whatever. Then the other night my mum calls me into her room and sits down and talks to me about a conversation she had with our family doctor. You see for the last 2-3 years I've had depression and anxiety and I've been on medication for it (it's gotten a lot better thanks to the meds though thankfully). My mum told me about how our doctor told her about this new birth control pill that doctors have been prescribing to teen girls and adults with depression because it has the amazing side affect of making you really really happy and joyful. In fact they've been using it to REPLACE anti-depressants. I didn't get the full details of it but I got a brief over view, and she's taking me into the doctor sometime this week to talk to him about it. She told me it's possible that I could gain weight but since I do exercise I should be fine, and she doesn't like me being on my anti-depressants. Okay first of all; I REALLY don't want to go on the pill. I've looked up a few different forms of birth control available here in Austraila and honestly the pill just has to many risks for my liking. Yes, I know many others go on it for YEARS and have no problems, but it just doesn't sit well with me personally. I don't like the idea of missing my period because I actually like having my period (I'm crazy, I know). I like it because it gives me reassurance that my body is healthy and working properly. So I really don't want it to change my periods too much. Also I don't really like the idea of hormones screwing around in my body too much. That's actually why I really wanted to look into the Paragard IUD (which is non-hormonal). Plus, it works for up to 10 years, it's one of the most affective methods and I already have a regular to light period, so if it gets heavier it won't be so bad (or at least I hope). I like the sound of that MUCH more. However, my mother really wants to get me on this pill and won't listen to me when I try to tell her that I'm not comfortable with it. She tells me that "People use it from teenagers up until they're in their 30s and are perfectly fine!" But that still doesn't change the fact that I really don't like it and I don't want to go on the pill. I don't know how else to convince her that I don't want to, and I'm scared that if I won't go on the pill that she'll get angry and won't give me any BC to use at all. What should I do? Please help!!!

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She literally cannot force you to take it. When she takes you to the doctor tell them you don't want it.

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Antidepressants fill you with hormones too. If you're replacing something that's probably screwing up your chemical balance already with something that could help your depression better AND provide birth control, I feel like that's an upgrade. Especially if you aren't comfortable asking for birth control at all, and she's just going to give it to you.

BUT, you need to be the BOSS of your own body. Own it. Own everything that happens to it. You're the queen of your castle, and you deserve to control that little kingdom, and you shouldn't let anything through the gates that you don't want.

I applaud you for educating yourself and researching as much as you can.

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Well firstly the pill doesn't stop your periods as you have a week off of taking it and that's when your period starts. At least the pill that I've been on does that. So you have a regular period each month. Secondly your mum obviously wants to promote as it can help with your depression. Do you know the effects the IUD will have and if you can have it at all whilst being on medication? If I was you I'd go with the pill then if you have too many side affects you can stop. Contraception is trial and error. Over the past 3 years I've been on the pill, implant and depo shot. You need to find what works for you as all the risks have to be labelled to save the doctors asses but not everyone has them. Hope this helped x

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I think to start on BC a pill would be best just to see how your body reacts and if you dont like it you can stop taking it. I had 3 IUDs put in and due to pain and them trying to come out I had to have them removed. I don't trust them at all. My friend had an IUD put in and it stuck to her uterine wall and caused scaring and now she may not be able to have children.  She is off all BC now and trying to have a child and due to the scars is having a hard time. I would really reconsider the IUD.  After hearing so many stories like hers I would never personally take the risk. But some women use it and it works fine. I had the implanon and it just went in my arm and it was great but it did make you lose having your period. The biggest thing is doing your research and finding what you feel comfortable with. Your other medications are working good and if you want to stick with them and try a different BC then do that. It's your body and you get a say what goes in it. Best wishes :)

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So, I'm gonna mention this first; I've never been on birth control, but I also suffer from bipolar disorder and take more medications than I care to say.

They cannot force you to take a pill for one so if you don't want it, tell the doctor. I know a lot of people are saying it's that the pill will help with depression, but personally, I think it sounds shady. >.>

Also, I'd recommend for you depression to possibly look into seeing a psychologist. I've had past experiences with my family doctor trying to take control of my meds and it always turns out badly. A psychologist is trained to figure out which medicines is right for your body when it comes to the mental aspect.

But again, they can't make you take a pill that you don't want to.

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You sound mature for your age and it's great that you know what you want to do for your body. Ultimately you know what is best for your body and no one can force you to put a chemical in it. What other bc options do you have? You can use condoms with spermicide, that will be effective.

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you don't have to skip your period on the pill it's optional, plus the IUD is only recommended to people that have already had kids

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My concern would be the fact that a lot of people have had problems with the IUD. I've, "heard," it kinda hurts... and a few of my friends and family members have had to have it taken out within weeks following the procedure due to complications and they also experienced bleeding and severe cramps. Obviously it's not like that for everyone but, I personally would rather stick with the pill.. Also, it's hard to say since you are a minor. For now, I think you should atleast go ahead and try the pill, and then if you decided later on to get the IUD, go for it. Your Mother does have the right to turn the IUD down since she has to sign a medical waiver for you to have it done since you are a minor and can not legally consent to medical procedures.

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What's the name of the pill if you don't mind me asking??

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May I ask what the birth control that can make you happy is called? Just wondering because it sounds good and I am in Australia too!

Also you don't have to skip your period with birth control.

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