I just need advice please my friend who just had a baby is just avoiding me?

A little long but it would be helpful if someone just gave me advice no need to be rude please. We've been friends since second grade we haven't seen each other since we were little we live in different states though. I stay in California and she stays in Las Vegas. Before she got pregnant we had a tight bond we were really close. Her pregnancy wasn't planned at all and when she found out and was scared as hell I was there for her. I'm not a selfish person and I wasn't angry at her but when she started getting happier as she showed me her belly progressing, ultrasounds, finding out the gender, etc we became distant and I was getting depressed and a little jealous but like I said I'm not a selfish person it was just hard. Around June I had a chemical pregnancy and I was devastated and here I am still trying. It was hard for me too see her happy pregnant when I wanted my baby so bad. She probably thinks I'm just a horrible friend, that I'm fake, and probably all this other shit because I know she was always there for me and to be honest yes I do feel bad but it's hard when you want something so bad but you can't get it. She stopped calling me and texting me around the end of May and it was just so hard for me to tell her how I felt because of our age (we're both 20) she felt like I was too young to have a baby when I'm stable, my boyfriend and I live together, we both have jobs with a steady income, we both drive and I just didn't want her to judge me so I just kept it to myself. She just had the baby yesterday I messaged her on Facebook and I said congrats on your baby girl she's so beautiful and she never replied. Should I tell her how I felt or just forget about it and move on? That was my only best friend besides my boyfriend but I know my life doesn't revolve around her and she can just focus on her baby I know it's a life changing experience 
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Look at it from her perspective. She was getting excited about her pregnancy and started sharing things with you and you shut her out. Now her life has changed forever and she, at least for the moment, has moved on. Give her some space. If she wants you back in her life she'll contact you.

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I would try to explain why you distanced yourself from her and try to make amends. I can definitely understand both sides. I've felt how you have when I was ttc for 2 years and everybody around me was pregnant...it was really hard and heartbreaking. I wanted to be there and be happy for them but it killed me to know I couldn't have that. I've also been on the other side where I've known people struggling yet I concieved my second on accident. Just try to reach out to her and tell her everything that's on your mind.

ca

cassafrass • Jul 22, 2016
I over looked that part, yeah I'd give her some time then. she's going to be busy with the new baby and adjusting to everything. I hope you two can work it out ❤

Sa

Sarah • Jul 21, 2016
Yeah your right but not right at this moment she just had the baby yesterday I'm just gonna give her space