So there is this guy we dated almost 2 years ago and well he had decided that he was not ready to settle down and he didn't want to hurt me by cheating so we broke up and he started dating other females while it left me bruise and battered not physically bit mentally. Over the next two years we had became best of friends and I have fall even more in love with him daily even tho I could not stand to see him with anyone or hear him talk about them without it making me cry, it still does sometimes. I had to suck it up if I wanted him around. Well he uses me like a yoyo and what I mean is he will bring me in all nice and lovey then out of no where throw me out and sometimes he keeps me down forever it seems till he brings me back in. He is not one to apologise but does when he is in the extreme wrong only. The names he has called me knowing I have an issue with the way I look (if I could I would never look in a mirror I don't like the way I look in any way shape or form honestly and try not to look at myself as much as possible) but I used to be overweight and I am now getting in shape but he will still call me a fat ass or when he is really being mean a cunt. I know I should not put up with this I'm not looking for comments like just leave him I just want to know what someone in my situation has handled what I'm going threw. Him and I have lived together this whole time and still do to this day he tells me that I am too good for him and that I can find someone who treats him better but he was not always like this this has came up more and more as he was loosing his son(not for anything other then a corrupt system) and it has been very hard on him. He knows I am not going anywhere and I feel he uses that to his advantage to take out some stress. How do I help him channel his anger towards something else other then me.