Long Distance Relationship.

Katie
My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half now, but in two weeks, he's moving to another state for 6 months. He won't be within driving distance, and I can't afford plane trips to see him. I know that 6 months isn't a super long time, compared to some ladies who go longer than that without seeing their significant others, but for me this is going to be really hard. I'm currently fighting anxiety and depression, and he's the only one who knows how to help me through my worst anxiety attacks, and my darkest days. I know he's the one for me, and we plan to get married in a few years.  Just wondering, how do some of you ladies make it through your long distance relationships? Any advice is appreciated! 
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An

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My boyfriend of a year and a half made it through one year of a Long Distance Relationship (Arkansas, USA and London, England) by making sure to schedule time for each other, watching shows/movies together on Netflix, and creating new "traditions" - he started telling me bedtime stories in his afternoon and I told him bedtime stories in my mornings. I suffer with anxiety and depression too but my boyfriend would go out of his way to make sure I knew I was still very special to him by sending me messages, letting me know who he was hanging out with/what they were doing and saying "I can't wait for you to come home so we can do x, y, or z". For important days (birthdays/anniversaries) he would send me flowers and chocolates and if he was having a bad day, I'd order a pizza to get delivered to his dorm. The key to making it through a LDR is to remember that your SO is a sentient person. You have to go out of your way to make sure they know you love them even when they're not there and that means getting creative. When we were going through some hard times, we both downloaded the Couple app on our phones and we used to thumbkiss for hours. It's really hard at first, but as soon as you slip into a rhythm with it, it's definitely doable. Best of luck!!!  

An

Ana • Jul 23, 2016
(We're still together and going to enjoy our 3 year anniversary this November) :) just stay strong!

Ve

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It's the first few days/ weeks that are tough to be honest. You learn to cope on your own but what's wonderful for our generation is that with FaceTime/Skype we can at least see each other as often as possible not like our grandparents who had to write letters and such ! 6 months will fly by before you know it ! Good luck 

Ka

Katie • Jul 23, 2016
Thank you, I hope the time flies!

Ka

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Thank you everyone for the advice and kind words! It's going to be a tough six months but I know we can do it. He's the love of my life, and he makes me feel loved every day. 

An

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For me it is hard cause he joined the army and is at basic training for 9 weeks...so no phone. 🙁 It was hard waiting to get letters, it was 3 weeks before I got the first letter. (I constantly stalking the mailman), I get so excited when i get a letter. 9 weeks is up on the 28th, so things will get easier once we can call and text each other. But he will still have 4 more months with his AIT. I just keep telling myself that it's not forever and he'll be back and everything will be great. And when we get through this we'll come out of this stronger.

Em

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You'll talk, you'll communicate. It'll get frustrating, but with technology today you can face time or Skype, every day!  My husband and I were long distance for a year and a half of our relationship; colleges 6 hours apart and neither of us had cars. We AIMED. Lol. Yup. Good old AIM; Instant Messenger. We e-mailed and we actually wrote snail mail letters; think the type you'd want grandkids to read aloud, not sex letters!!!  It was alright, we got to know each other more personally that way. This was at the beginning of our relationship. It was also amazing each time I got to see him; butterflies galore!!  We did break up once; I was "too clingy." Lol, funny how being so far apart can make one clingy. Yeah, I got jealous; he was a frat boy, went out a lot. I liked to know who/what/where/when/why. Didn't stop when we got back together; I did trust him more but I wasn't being clingy or nosy, I was being a curious girlfriend. It's nice to know what he was up to, what he liked to do, who his friends are.