When? 'Never.'

Question

I have been with my man for 8 years 2 years married now. I knew I loved him from the very first day I meet him we have always been together. Sure our marriage has ups and downs everyone has that it is how we grow and change. We both work, have a lovely apartment, and make our bills with extra left. I couldn't see my life without him

Husband told me when I turned 25 we would open the idea to having a baby. (Being a mother has always been what I wanted) I turned 25 in June he turned 26 today. A few weeks back I start to talk about it. He doesn't feel it is something he wants. (He has his reasons and even if I think they are unfair it doesn't matter he feels they are valid and I respect that) I feel betrayed though.
 
I am still heartbroken... the pain is real. Seeing my little niece tears my heart apart. The thought of never having this dream makes me want to curl up and cry all day.

How do I make this pain go? I love my husband and will be his wife till the end no matter what, but how do I move pass this?

Answer

Is it something he never wants or just something he doesn't want right now? If it's the former I honestly dont know how you will move past this, i was in a similar position with my ex, I ended up resenting him badly which spiralled into hating other stuff about him and we broke up - thankfully so as i now have my husband and son but what I'm saying is - in order for you to move past this you have to let go of your dream and you will only truly know if you can move on when you ask yourself if you can see yourself being childless for life?  Good luck xx

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Maybe he should know and see how much you cared about this issue. As well as he should be aware that you could think that he will be ready one day. You have the right to feel disappointed and sad and betrayed I think. and he should know that it was not fair acting like he did. I don't mean fight, arguing or leaving. Just let him know you are heartbroken.
I hope it will change. You are still young and have time. Sometimes it takes time for men. Wish that yours will change his mind ☺

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That's tough. You've spent all this time together assuming that kids were in the future because of what he directly told you. It's unfair of him to change his mind now, when he knows you want kids. However he is certainly entitled to his own opinions and desires. The fact that he changed his mind so recently makes me wonder if he just has some cold feet. Now that the time is here, he might just be worried . You're gonna have to talk this one out. It won't be easy but he needs to know that you feel lead on about the potential for a family. Good luck ❤️

When? 'Never.'

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