Is he gay? 😭

Question

I don't want any negative comments so just be aware that I am going to be very straight forward and if you don't have any advice, then please don't comment.

I've been seeing this guy for a few months. He's very sweet, he has a very good outlook on life, he's mature and makes me laugh more than anyone else I've dated. When it comes to sex, he likes a lot of anal things..and I don't. And I mean he likes it in HIS ass, not mine. He has told me that he has tried dating guys and having sex with men but it's not for him.."confirming" that he isn't gay, he has denied it without me even asking him.
But he has also told me that a girl and him used a strap on and he loved it. He only has girl friends, he sounds gay (I know I shouldn't say that, but he has a very feminine, "gay" voice - and in the way he says things).
I like him, I really do but I am not into the sexual things he is into. My friends met him, and they think he is gay too. It makes me feel awkward going out with him because I'd like people to think we are in a relationship, but it looks like I'm just a girl with a gay best friend. I am not trying to offend anyone, I am definitely not a homophobic. I just don't want to be the girl he ends up using as a cover up, and I don't want to find out he's gay later on if I ever fall in love with him. This is a really difficult situation for me because I know you cannot force someone to come out of the closet, but I don't want to date someone who I could potentially lose to a man. Please help

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Definitely talk to him about it. If that is the only reason why you're having doubts about your relationship together, then clear it up. Display your concern of being a cover up in the nicest way, some guys get offended by that really badly. Good luck! Wish you the best 😘

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Eee by the sounds of it. The fact you said new has tried with other guys yes but he may just be bi tho? Or maybe he likes to receive as well as give its not uncommon for some guys yea even straight guys like that. Do ask him about it, its not fair on you of he is gay and using you to cover it up or to try to hide his true self.

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I would suggest you sit him down and tell him you want him to be honest with you. I have met guys who I thought for sure they were gay but, they weren't. Some guys are just a little more feminine-like than others. Some guys have different sexual interests.

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Then just be his friend for a while. It doesn't sound like it will work out for too long if you're already having doubts in the relationship. If you keep it going, someone is going to get hurt, whether he is gay or not.

Is he gay? 😭

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