16 and pregnant ?

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Ok so my fella and I have been together for nearly 6 mths and I've just found out I'm pregnant! I just don't no what to do. We were using condoms and were very careful and he always checked to see if they tore or anything so I just don't understand how this cud happen ! I told him yesterday and he says he will stand by me coz he loves me so much and he even wants to make a proper go of it by moving in together to be a proper family. I'm just so scared about it all and if we will cope and telling our parents ect. Are we too young for a baby ?

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It's difficult to know whether you are too young without actually knowing you... Everyone is different, but I know at 16 I would have been way to immature to have a baby. I had a boyfriend from 16-18 and I thought we'd get married and have babies... But we grew up and grew apart.

I am so much different to my 16 year old self (I'm 35 now). If I had had a baby with my boyfriend, it would never have lasted and I'd still have to see him now so he could visit our child (my nightmare!). That said, I know a couple who started dating at 16 and are now married with two children and still happy at 33.

You need to think very long and hard about whether you think this boyfriend is "forever" and also if you want to be a mother. Choosing abortion or adoption is also scary, but the commitment to a child for life is scary and so much nicer when you planned for it and feel ready.

Good luck with your decision x

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Get a job. Finish school. If you choose not to keep the baby that's okay too. There's no shame in any choice you make

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You will be ok girly things may look uncertain, but if you have a support system and you love your child there nothing you can't do and don't let anyone tell you different!!! Good luck!

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If he really loves you and your parents see this, they might be mad at first but after awhile I think they will be okay with it. I'm 17 and I think I'm pregnant. I don't really know how to tell my mom so I guess we are in the same predicament.

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As long as you know the love will last forever! Just do not go for abortion and if yall dont think your ready there is always adoption

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You will have a very difficult time ahead of you. It isn't all peaches and cream as so many women would like you to believe. I am a realist and Parenting is difficult and it is a 24/7 job if done correctly. Good luck. Please get your diploma or a GED.

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You can do it. Plenty of other ppl your age do and have. It's not going to be easy but you can do it. Btw my husband and I were using condoms never had one break and that was how we conceived our first child so find a secondary form of birth control!! Don't just rely on condoms!!

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I'm 17 and pregnant been with my partner for 2 years almost, as long as you do what is best for you, nobody else, then you will be fine, Dont worry about anything or anyone else good luck girl x