Should I be upset?

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My fiancé told me he looks at other girls, and when we're out he still looks just "discreetly", a part of me is hurt knowing he doesn't just have eyes for me, I hate that he looks when we're together.

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Depends on how he said it. Did he tell you because you asked? Or did he just randomly say it?
If you asked, then -- sorry to say -- you kinda brought it on. You can absolutely be upset, but don't let it ruin your relationship. You've got an honest guy who feels open and comfortable with you.
If he just said it out of the blue, talk to him about how you feel and re-evaluate as necessary.

I know I'd be hurt if my SO was like "I look at other women..." But the realist in me knows that he does, because it's just the nature of the beast. I mean, I look at other men, but I'd never tell him that, unless he asked.
People are everywhere. You're going to see them. You're going to have a gut reaction about what you see... I work in customer service, so I see a lot of people all day long, and occasionally a guy will come up to the counter that makes me think "Well hellllooooo, handsome." But that doesn't mean I don't go all heart eyes when I see my SO, and would do anything to purposely hurt or betray him.

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Thanks guys, i realized it's okay for him to look, because he's with me and he's marrying me. As long as nothing happens, there's no harm done :)

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I personally would never be okay with that. Everyone is different though.

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I would be pissed my husband did that

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Should you? No. Is it okay to be? Absolutely! I have this terrible thing where I can think rationally about something but my emotions do not follow what I know is "right". Humans are beautiful. Every single one. And it is entirely okay to realize that there are other beautiful humans on this planet besides our SO. Given, looking all of the time, is kinda out of line. Just be aware that there's beautiful people, you don't have to drool over them, ya know? BUT my emotions would say, our SO should only find us attractive, should only look at us and think about us in *that* kind of way. Cause trust me, I would be pissed if my bf told me that. And I would also be really petty and do it back. But in reality, there's other attractive people out there. Your SO looking is either something you can or can't deal with in a relationship and no one can tell you that it's not okay for you to feel like that.

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I'd be upset 
Just tell him how you feel
If he doesn't stop do it back and reevaluate your relationship

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I don't think you should be upset. I'm sure you find other men attractive. My fiancé does the same thing and it doesn't bother me. He's with me, so why worry? It's not like he's going and trying to get their numbers or anything. I look at other men occasionally and think damn what's that like, but I don't act upon that! I'm sure my fiancé does the same thing. It's natural for you to look at other people just so long as you don't act upon that. I know all I want is my fiancé anyways.

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Well he should understand you & try not to do it anymore, but if I were you I will do the same thing .  A taste of his own medicine .

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