What should I do ?!?!?!??!?!

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Hey girls !! I need help. This guy at my church has been complimenting me  and I always had a feeling that he liked me and yesterday he confirmed that when he gave me a letter that he had written. I think irs sweet and everything but The problem is that I'm 16 and he's 20. The letter basically said that he's been think about me a lot and that I'm in him mind all the time  and that he knows that it would be hard for us to be something because of the age difference. He also says that his intentions are pure towards me and that I'm special to him and that he respects my parents. He also dedicated a song to me "que dios te bendiga toda" by vicente fernandez.
Please help I don't know what to say to him!!! And I see him today at church !!

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I say talk to your parents before anything! If they allow it, go for it!

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Be friends, and if a relationship develops out of it, over time, you'll know it was meant to be. It seems like a huge age gap at 16, but when he's 32 and your 28 it seems relatively small.

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My husband and I are 5 years apart. We met at our church's youth group. I liked him for a good year before we started dating. He didn't end up asking me out till right after I turned 18. I think this was definitely for the best. If it's Gods will the two of you are supposed to be together it will happen. Until then stay friends and get to know each other!

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4 years isn't a whole bunch and if his intentions are pure he will/should be respectful of that ..... Finish school is all that's important right now

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Mmmm... I think you guys should talk not date or be official but get to know each other and go on church events all as friends with intentions to date in the future. If his intentions are truly good he will wait for you when you're ready if he doesn't like it and wants more then you know there his intentions are not true.

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Talk to your parents about it. He seems respectful but talking to your parents will put them at ease and make them feel more included.

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if his intentions are pure then go for it but I suggest being friends first, relationships are better that way plus that will get you closer to the 2yrs before your 18. Good luck

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I started dating my now husband at church when I was 16 and he was 20. We dated for 2 years, got engaged, married almost a year later and have now been together 6 years. 4 years isn't that big of a gap. I couldn't ask for a better husband. He is a Godly man that takes very good care of me. :)

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4 years is not a big age difference. However, there is a world of difference between 16 and 20. He's too old for you.

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No just no...if anything were to happen between yall physically it would be illegal...plus you are in two different stages of life and you may want ask yourself why a 20 year old is interested in a high school student.