Too much tongue!! 😷👅

Gshaw • Have to many questions
Recently every single guy I make out with these days are horrible kissers! 
straight to the fast deep throating tongue! Like don't get me wrong, I love a little Frenchy, but when there's no build up and it's straight to the tongue aw man it's a massive turn off. I have to pull away and get him to kiss my neck. It's not even the nice tongue it's the fast deep cringe worthy tongue! 
Is it just me or is there anyone else out there with this problem? 
Plus how can I help the situation?