So my bf hasn't had any communication with his mom in about a year and they had a broken relationship before that. He feels that when he got divorced she took his ex wife's side and thinks she is always trying to start drama. I've let him be for the most part about it but now that we are expecting a baby I've asked him to mend fences enough so that our baby  can have a relationship with his/her grandma but he doesn't think it's necessary. The reason it's important to me is because my (adoptive) mother will be having as little as possible to do with our child because she allowed and then defended her sons (her natural child) molestation of my sisters (blood sisters, also adopted) and I think that's a legitimate reason. Also I didn't really have a family till I was adopted at 13 and I'd really like my child to have what I didn't. His brothers wife has expressed what I wonderful grandma his mother is and I don't understand why he wouldn't want that for our baby as well.