Rape?

Question

Hey guys. So I'm sorry if this is a downer but I'm really confused right now. Last year I got out of a sexually abusive relationship. It ended because he had sex with another girl. We talked and he said he didn't realize he was being abusive during the relationship, but I know he was (I would tell him no to fooling around and he would laugh and pull me into rooms and make me do things with him) I recently learned about coercion and I started thinking. The first time we slept together was after we broke up. I told him so several times, but he kept pushing it. He never threatened me, but I was worried he would get made and make me leave if I said no. Needless to say after 30 minutes of him pestering I caved and said yes. But it has always causes me stress since then and negatively effected my mental health. I don't want to believe that I was raped, but it's honestly how I feel. Do you guys think I'm being dramatic, or was it rape?

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It's tricky... You were unwilling to give consent, which is by defenition, rape. However, you did say yes before he actually penetrated you, which may make it unclear to a jury, or in a civil feud. At most, this may be considered sexual assault. I'm sorry this happened to you, please make sure you don't do anything you aren't comfortable with, even if you think the other person may get mad and leave!

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I went thru a similar thing that was my last relationship

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It's rape. Same thing happen to me when I was 16. No matter how you look at it. You didn't want to do anything but he pressured you into it.

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That's rape, but it would be hard to sentence or punish him for it, if you've showered since and have no evidence then unfortunately there's nothing you can really do about it! Come forward and tell the police if you want to though! if it will help you, and just think about weather he might do it to another girl. Sorry for rambling!! What I'm saying its, come forward to the authorities if you're comfortable with that, but you're unlikely to get a conviction! Best of luck x

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Yes. It's rape. You did not want to do it, but he pressured you. However, since you said yes anyways, if you were to try and bring him to court it would rule in his favor.

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Sex that happened without enthusiastic complete consent from both parties is rape. Consent can be given ahead of time in conversation which can be revoked during acts, or can be given throughout the whole process. From what I see here was that it was not an enthusiastic yes from you so I would consider it rape.

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