Having problems with S/O?

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We've been together for 10yrs we have 3kids, he's a really nice guy never screams at me hardly gets mad always helping out others he's a really hard working man and always makes sure that we have everything we need. Problem is that he's very conservative with his feelings like he hardly tells me that he loves me he doesn't want to get married we don't celebrate our anniversary of the day we moved in together he don't like me giving him hickeys. I know he does love me cuz he demonstrates it with actions not with words. When ever I ask him how come u never say I love you he says u already know I do, But I mean who doesn't like to get reminded of the love they have for u? I do want to get married,but he says there's no point on getting married if we're already together. Any one else in this situation? And what did u do.

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My dad is like this with my mum and when she asked him it actually came down to the way he was bought up. He is 55 my dad & when he was bought up it was very strict & you didn't show your feelings. His mum &  dad have never told him they love him or they are proud of him although they show it. My dad never tells me he loves me but I feel he does by the way he is. He tells my mum he loves her now and then but they have been together 25years she trusts he loves her x

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You have to tell him that you need to hear it and often. Even remind him... "Tell me how much you love me Baby!" Eventually he'll get it and you won't need to remind him.  Men need direction.

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Some people show affection differently then others. My parents never told me I love you. They just recently started to say it because tragedy struck. It is due to the way they were raised. The marriage issue, I honestly don't know why he doesn't want to get married. My guess is, he looks at it as a piece of paper. Everything you're telling us here shows that you pretty much are married without the paper.

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Does he have asperger's?