Did I overreact? Please give me your opinion!!

Question

My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year. He has two children from his previous relationship with his babymother... Now, that you know the details, Here's the story. Lol

Over the weekend we got into an argument about a confrontation w/ my sister's husband a week ago that I brought back up. My sister's hubby said some mean things about my boyfriend for no reason and some of those things he said was about my boyfriend's babymother (like she looks ratchet was ugly lol I know... it was kinda childish of him lol but oh well, He's entitled to his opinion.)

So, My boyfriend said, "When I see him again, I'm going to confront him about what he said about me & my BABYMOMMA!"

In my head, I was like.. WTF?!"😮😮 Why would you take ANYTHING he says about her personally? SHE'S NOT YOUR WOMAN. I AM!  I took it as he was defending her which by his words, he damn sure was. Idc what he says.

Then, he says.. "She didn't have anything to do with this and she's my kid's mother and even tho, She's a pain in the ass, I still have to take up for her. WTF?!? I was in complete shock! 😔😡 I wanted to cry but, not in front of him. THEN I said, " I don't think it's fair that you always put her over me b/c she's your kid's mother. She's moved on, got married and has two another kids from her husband!" DAMN, GET OVER IT!!! If she needs someone to take up for her, she has a husband.

THEN he said, "Well, you have your BROTHERS!"  At this point.. I begun to sit quietly b/c that's not the same as my point. So... I told him.. "You wouldn't get that pissed if it was me"

He insisted, " Yes! Yes! I would, you don't know what I would do" I rolled my eyes like yeah whatever 🙄 
He was like... I love you! I still couldn't believe he trying to justify his actions. What he said broke my heart. I don't think he would never understand. It's not because I'm jealous. That's like me saying... I will still fight over my ex if he's with another girl.

After we augured, He left out the room and I begin to cry but, he didn't know I was crying b/c he left. I think I had every right to feel hurt, Did I overreact? OR Yes! I had a reason to feel some type of way about that?

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I think you completely overreacted. You took a situation about your SO and brother and made it about yourself. At the end of the day, she is still his kids mother. If he stood up for her when she's not even there about all that, then that proves that he's a stand up guy. What your brother or in law, whoever he is, said was very disrespectful and he has every right to defend his kids mother. So leave him be. You should apologize. He was well within his rights.

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I think you overreacted. At the end of the day that's the mother of his child. If he were to talk shit along with him he'd be considered a shit baby daddy.

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This sounds a bit like you over reacted/ a little immature.. she is his kids mum, he probably loved her once, it's not nice to hear people saying horrible things.. I have no feelings for my ex but if somebody was saying horrible things and saying he was ugly I don't think that is nice at all! I think it shows how nice of a person your partner is.. it doesn't matter who the woman is, it's not nice when people say horrible things and it's good he did speak up about it.

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Personally I think you overreacted a bit

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He should 100% defend the mother of his children!!  She should never have been in the fight!  He can talk all the trash he wants about her that's different!  It's like family I can talk as much crap about my family when they piss me off but you better not do it or I will turn on you!!  It's about loyalty!  Take it as a good sign that he is loyal!  I saw a post where you said you think he slept with her during your relationship.  If that's the case move on.  You should be with someone you trust.  If you can't trust him it's not worth it!

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Sorry I think you over reacted. The point is his children's mum didn't have anything to do with the argument with him and the other husband. And whether you like it or not there will always be a bond between them as she is the mother to his children I'm not saying he loves her but he probably feels he needs to stand up for him.

This is also doesn't make any difference to how he feels about you or how he would react if it was you and not her. I think you have made this about you for no reason.

If I was you I wouldn't bring it up again and just drop it. It's not worth the argument and is making you sound jealous. He isn't putting her before you at all

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You didnt overreact. I would have more than likely in the situation tho. You handled it way better than me.

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Personally I can see his point of view in that it is his child's mother and he doesn't need to hear that type of stuff being said 
Could have been handled better

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Yes, I feel you overreacted. That is his childs mom and if she didn't have anything to do with it then yes it's fair to stick up for her. You shave been upset with you bil, not boyfriend.

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I swear this sounds like my husband and I's old fights.. sameish scenario. He has two kids from an ex-wife.. but she's not re-married and oh lord, we use to get into arguments about her all the time and then one day we just stopped. I was like, why am I going to let her ruin my relationship??
So I asked him if he wanted to be with her or me and he choose me. It will always be me. So what did I have to worry about??

Well, now I worry about giving him a child but that's a story for another chat lol.

Did I overreact? Please give me your opinion!!

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