Fight with husband!!

So what would you ladies do?? I had a conversation with my hubby this evening about us trying new things in bed and him letting me do things to him. He was a super ass about it. He's one of those men that think it's gay to like ass play. I explored a lot while in college and getting to switch roles with a man was a huge turn on for me. Things got so nasty with our argument that he said if I would not give him sex than he'd find it else where. It hurt me so bad. What do I do?? Hide my feelings and act like its nothing.