My mom is throwing a baby shower. Trying to start planning now since she recently got back from her trip, and invites need to go out within a couple weeks. I had asked my husband if he is interested in a co-ed shower since I have been to a couple with him, and he said yeah! because we have several close guy friends/hetero couples that would appreciate the invite; plus my husband wants to be a part of things and would appreciate other male presence to make it less awkward for him.

My mom, however, doesn't want to throw a co-ed shower. She is worried about having too many of our friends, and making a couple of my (old-fashioned, uptight) relatives uncomfortable with there being so many younger people (20s and 30s); also that they might not appreciate the same shower games. She also wants to keep the numbers down to keep the cost down.

I jokingly suggested what am I supposed to do, have 2 showers?? But it sounds like she would rather have me do one just for friends and let her throw the family one. But i work full-time weekends - I had a really hard time getting off for that one day, so they would probably have to be back-to-back on the same day. Also who would throw it - I can't just ask someone to throw me a shower, but isn't it tacky to throw your own? Not to mention I think the whole thing is stupid anyways and i don't see why it can't all be one shower.

Idk what to do. What would you do in my situation?