Mother-in-Law Issues...?

Question

His mother hates me, but we're married and she still doesn't know. She won't even talk to me. I'm Native American and he's Korean. Not to mention he's the only male in his family; and his mother is super protective... My mom's side of the family loves and accepts him, but my dad's side is very insular and doesn't take too well to non-Natives. But they at least speak to him. She won't even speak to me... What should I do?

Answer

So you guys got married and didn't tell her...... ? That probably doesn't help the situation.

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First, talk to your husband, because whether you like it or not you're going to have to tell his mother at some point. (I feel like her behavior towards you is why you two got married without telling her)
Second, if you have really made an effort to get along with her and his mother still doesn't like you, oh well life goes on :) speaking from complete experience here, having one parent of your husband dislike you even hate you SUCKS but if you truly love each other then just be the better person and smother her with affection and respect (weirdly enough it actually works to some extent). She's either going to grow up and accept that her son loves you or she'll probably lose any meaningful relationship with your husband. My point is, stay strong and keep trying your best :)