Am I in the wrong?

Question

Guys, I need advice.. 
I was in a relationship for almost 18 months with a boy, he was not a man, but a boy, Who straight out, to put it plainly, abused me. Some may think it wasn't abuse, but I believe it was. He controlled every single aspect of my life, who I spoke to, what I wore, where I went, basically, how I lived. 
I was not happy. I was upset the whole time but stupid me just was in love with him. 
Anyway. On the day Finding dory came out in Australia, June 17, I took the bus with my Best friend to be the first to watch our all time favourite movie. Here's the thing, I lied to him, I knew he would leave me and do something to hurt me if I told him I was taking the bus. 
We broke up a little over 4 weeks ago, and I still never really told him the truth. I felt bad for not telling him but in a way felt he deserved it. 
Yesterday, he found out. My 'best friend' who hadn't spoken to me for 6 weeks, told him. And I tbh, am so happy she did. I was glad to clear everything so I didn't feel so bad. But he lost the plot and was going off at me. Saying mean stuff about me, putting me down, all because he abused me? 
I understand where he is coming from, but in a way, I feel like I shouldn't feel as bad as I do? 
Am I in the wrong here? I feel bad for doing it but I wouldn't have had to do it if I was actually allowed to hang out with my friends.. 
If you read this far, I love you. 
Please please tell me your true thoughts 😥

Answer

The way I see it is, you did do something wrong. You knowingly lied to him and went behind his back. You knew he'd be upset and you still did it.  Your life or safety wasn't in danger, so I don't see lying as being justified in this case. He might be controlling or mentally abusive, but if he was, then you should've just broken it off with him and then do whatever you want. You were both wrong. But dwelling in the past won't make a difference or anything better.

Answer

You lied, which was wrong. But you seem to recognize that (you mentioned feeling guilty) so use this as a learning experience! 
Also use the relationship as a learning experience. You deserve someone who will go watch Finding Dory with you (and buy you popcorn ;)), not someone who puts you down for seeing a silly movie!! 
Just move on and leave him in the past. Let him be mad, and just continue living your life.

Answer

No, you're not in the wrong. He is. I probably would've told him but this is definitely not something you should feel bad about. And I hope you told someone that he abused you cause I'm about to beat him up myself haha.

Answer

Don't feel bad for anything because you did nothing wrong. No one deserves to be put down or controlled! To me this wasn't a healthy relationship at all! You deserve to be happy with someone that treats you like a princess not a prisoner.

Am I in the wrong?

Let’s Glow

Glow is here for you on your path to pregnancy

25+ million

4.8 stars

20+

Getting Pregnant

Pregnancy

1st Year (Baby & You)

Baby Products