Am I wrong to be upset?

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My due date is tomorrow so I'm not sure if I'm rationally upset or whether it's just the ridiculous pregnancy hormones. This is mine and husbands second baby. Our first daughter is 16 months old and we have another little girl on the way. I'm a SAHM and since I hit about 30 weeks I've had high blood pressure and really low iron. My 16 month old still wakes up every 3 hours (I'm the only one who gets up with her at nighttime since hubby starts work at 7am and I want him to be able to rest) so I'm really exhausted during the day so when my husband gets home it would be nice to have a little help. Lately my husbands new thing has been going to bed as soon as he gets home at 5pm. He never offers to help me with the baby and never offers to watch her so i can nap. When he isn't sleeping he's in the garage working on his truck which leaves me yet again watching LO alone even though I'm really sleep deprived. Today he got home from work at 230 to take me to my last doctors appointment. We were home by 4 and he went to go lay on our bed. I begged him not to do this today because I didn't sleep at ALLL last night and could really use his help with dinner. He told me he was joking and was only resting his eyes. So I go change the baby's diaper and come back in the room to find him under the covers in bed fast asleep. I'm absolutely furious. My due date is tomorrow and I feel like he's making everything about him and what he needs. It's 6:22pm right now and he's already been in bed for an hour and won't wake up again until 630am when he leaves for work in the morning. He doesn't even feel bad leaving me to care for LO alone again until her bedtime at 8pm even though I'm 40 weeks pregnant. Am
I right to be upset? I'm seriously at a loss on how to handle this situation. I should add that he's very affectionate most of the time but just seems to think his needs come before mine when it comes to rest and taking care of the baby. I can't stop crying. I really wish it didn't get to me this much.

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Sleeping that much isn't normal so first stop would be the doctor for him.  It may be a medical condition or depression causing this. But yes, being upset is completely understandable.

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He sounds plain lazy. No grown man needs to sleep that much, dont let him get away with that its not right.

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Two questions. Is there something wrong with him that he sleeps so much. And why does your toddler still wake up every three hours. That's odd. I'd bring that up to the pediatrician. Btw on the other topic, if there's nothing physically wrong with your husband then yeah I'd be mad. Did he help with the first child.

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You are absolutely right to be upset. You need to try to speak to him. Maybe he should see a doctor.

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You have every right to be upset. Is he depressed or something though? When my fiancé is on days he also gets up early (5:30 or so) and doesn't get home till like 4-4:30 but the only times he goes to bed as soon as he gets home is the day he switched from night shift to days because he can't sleep. Mind you he's not very useful around the house but atleast he'll watch our daughter sonincan cook. I'd be setting him down and explaining to him that you have poor blood sugar, are up all night with your daughter and are due to go into labor at any time and he better start pulling his weight. You might as well be a single mother , all he is right now is paying the bills..

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Is something wrong with him? I feel like a healthy grown man shouldn't be sleeping that much. Being 40weeks I can understand you being tired but him? He'll sleep for the next 12 hours? That's odd. Maybe depression?

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When he got home I'd go lock myself in the bedroom and go to sleep. Alone and let him deal with your daughter for a while. You have every right to be upset. He's not pulling his weight with your growing family.

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My husband leaves the house at 6am everyday and comes home at 4pm, and has a second job thursdays to sundays working late ontop of what he already works. I have a 4, 3 and almost 2 year old at home and im 4 weeks pregnant. Being tired has hit me so hard lately... but i find myself wanting to sleep around 1pm when he is at work and i force myself to stay awake because i have to.. i know i can go to sleep when he gets home but tomorrow he is working double switch forces me to stay awake from when the kids wake up to when they go to sleep... it is hard. I thought before i was tired but now being pregnant again the tiredness just hit me

Am I wrong to be upset?

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