Offended by personal questions and opinions?

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Anyone else surprised or annoyed by how casually people--especially men--bring up private, personal topics with pregnant women?

I can't tell you the number of people who have given me a sermon about breastfeeding, circumcision, foods I shouldn't eat, and how I'm never going to get my old body back (People seem particularly gleeful about my totally normal weight gain.)

I haven't asked for anyone's advice or opinion!

Anyone else dealing with this? Have any pointers for what to say to make them stop?

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Went to a family wedding over the weekend. I am 6 months now and I got to hear how huge I am the whole night!! Or "Am I sure I am not having twins". So offensive!! I dont think people think before they open their mouths!!

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My pet peeve is "oh youre pregnant? Congrats! Let me use this as an opportunity to tell you about this horrible experience or thing that happened to me or someone i knew when they were pregnant" Uh thanks... Haha as if i didnt have enough anxiety.

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Haha I've had a hard time with this too. I even had people reminding me to take my prenatals... Like hello?! Are you serious? I think the best thing you can do is to try to change the subject or if they give you advice don't comment back just say, "That's interesting, thanks for sharing." People are strange, you have to know their heart is in the right place. If you even want to get crazy... Sometimes my preferred method.. Just complain about all the unwanted advice you're getting openly like you're talking about 'other' people and maybe they will get the hint. Passive aggressive works well in pregnancy I've found. Good luck!

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Was it planned, really annoys me!!!

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When I told people I was expecting the shockingly favourite question was so have you been trying or was it a surprise- obv if you are pregnant people know what you have been up to but still think it's a pretty personal question from co-workers etc. - makes me laugh though!

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People I'm not close with wanting to touch my belly..... Is my biggest hate. It's weird enough to have a giant baby inside me with out strangers touching me. Lol...

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I'm on my third pregnancy and honestly none of that ever bothered me.  I don't really feel like any of those are too personal to bring up with someone you know. I guess if it was a stranger at the grocery store it might be diff but even then I doubt I'd care. It comes with the territory get used to it.

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People are just trying to make conversation. I admit, even though I'm pregnant, I still have no idea what to talk about with other pregnant women.

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I am going through the same thing. People who have never been pregnant telling me what to eat, how to live, how this is will ruin my life, etc. I have also been dealing with people just telling me how my body will never bee the same. I have always been fit and active but for some reason everyone is just so excited for me to "get big" and "get a round face". I am 11weeks and I have yet to gain any weight and people seem disappointed. I have decided that they're right my body won't be the same, I will have carried a child, trained my ass off postpartum and my body will be better. So my advice ignore them now and actions speak louder than words, just prove to them you got this.

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I had a handful of chex mix and my step dad's ex wife said "oh, I don't think you want to eat that. You have to watch your sodium."

It was one handful of chex mix.