I stood up to him...
It went HORRIBLE! He apparently is just a passive aggressive manipulator. He has always said "I can't express myself very well because my Mom died when I was young"
He was a teenager when his mom suddenly unexpectedly passed away. There's nothing you can say when someone uses grief as an excuse to treat people badly. His family all says he never tried to heal or grieve properly. When we argue he just repeats back everything I say. He can't have an opinion of his own. I'll say " I'm really frustrated that you won't tell me what's going on and you have no explanation when I ask why you have been so hostile toward me" then he says "You are hostile and you don't explain yourself". Makes no sense and he avoids answering all my questions. When do you know to give up? 5 years in and still dating, most of the time things are pretty good, we had been TTC this month, our first time TTC and now we aren't because he isn't ready. But It could be too late to take it back. AF due on the 20th. Not sure what to hope for. Feeling very lost.