Would you go back to a man that cheated on you while he was drunk ??

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My fiancé cheated on me while I was away one night, we were taking a break sort of but I was just getting away to try and make myself a better person and I got a call from his sister and the girl that he cheated with.... They told me what happened and I asked to talk to him but he wasn't there so I had to wait an hour to talk to him and when I asked him the first time he said no issued him three more times he finally said yes then told me he was drunk don't remember anything that happened but there's only one funny thing I woke up dressed ....any time he's drunk and we had sex or with any of his exs he would be naked so it's kind of like I don't know if his sister planned this with her best friend wich just so happened to show up the day after I left to my cousins house. I don't know if she planned to break us up or if she just wanted him to move out I don't know if he really did do it but I just want to know your opinion now that you know the story

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I think it's worth another chance.

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It sounds almost like he just thinks he did because that's what his sister and her friend told him what happened. I don't know anyone who, being so drunk had sex and then put their clothes back on. If I ever wake up fully dressed after a night of drinking it's because I literally walked in my room and passed the eff out and slept like the dead. If I get in any state of undress it STAYS that way until I've slept and sobered.

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Well if you love him and he admits to it and apologizes then maybe.

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No, drunk isn't an excuse.

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So, here's where I stand in cheating. A drunkest bar hookup is a mistake, a big one, but a mistake. An affair is unforgivable. I have repeatedly told my partners I understand everyone is human and makes mistakes. It happens. If it happens habitually, we're done. If it happens once, we can work through that.

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Everyone is different. Without trust its hard to tell. Judge his actions and body language very closely to see if he is lying. When someone tells a lie they are usually hyper nervous until you believe them. If you say you believe nothing happened and he relaxes to the extreme it may be that he is relieved you believe the lie. No two men are the same. Hard to say what really happend. If he is serious about your relationship maybe see if he will go to a few counseling sessions to help you guys through.

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I'm with previous poster. It really doesn't sound like he actually cheated. It sounds like his sister and best friend set him up. I'd get to the bottom of things, cut off sister and repair you alls relationship(if he was set up). What girl sleeps with a guy knowing he has a fiancé then immediately calls the fiancé up while with his sister? Did I read that right? It just sounds very fishy to me. I wouldnt make any decisions until I dug deep.

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Whether drunk or not it's a choice.  He chose to drink and put himself in a situation where he could "blame it on the alcohol" I don't buy it. Don't put yourself in sticky situations if your not ready for the consequences.

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If you two were taking a break at that point then it shouldn't count as cheating and depending on the relationship you have with his sister if she's not your biggest fan it could be a set up to get you out of the picture