Would you be angry?

Question

Last night I asked my girlfriend what we should do tomorrow night ( Saturday night ) and she said I don't know babe anything .. And I said well let's see what we feel like doing when we finish work.
Anyways she just messaged me and said she is now going for dinner with her friends ... And she will come over after ... But that will be like 9pm or something and I already asked her yestedaY what we should do... So I feel like I'm just second option until something better comes up.. 
we are fighting now , and I told her this isn't the first time she has done this .. I have been down and upset and a bit depressed this month due to me having to put my cat down..
She hasn't really been much support really.. 
I'm starting to think .. I'm just not good enough.
She Said I'm fucking selfish cause her work friend is upset .. But yet I am upset to? 
I said she could of invited me .. I know these girls also .. But she still didn't invite me .. What do you think? Would you be angry? If your partner bailed on you?

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If she loves you, you should be her #1 priority no matter what! If you and her friend are both upset, YOU should be the one she's comforting. As her partner, you come first! Also, I'd definitely be pissed. You wanted to spend time with her and she blew you off! She should have told her friends she'd hang with them another night or she should have at least invited you. Maybe not a deal breaker for a relationship, but definitely something to discuss with her. Good luck!🌸

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Firstly, I'm sorry about your cat 💕

I would be upset. You need to have communication. She should've at least talked to you about it first instead of telling you her plan. Like "hey my friends want to go to dinner, why don't you and I plan for something fun after or you can come along and we can still do something fun after? Is that okay? If not we can just have our night together.. Etc" something like that? Instead of just saying see you after I do this thing instead of what we planned. Maybe she is just the type of person who likes a solid plan of action like this is exactly what we are doing tonight or else there's nothing set in stone? Who knows. Y'all should work on communication!

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Uh I'd be furious. You're not selfish, she's being selfish. Why can't she invite you to go? Like so she can spend time with her friends and you..? You stated that you wanted to be with her way before she got a dumb "message". Let her coworker be mad, who cares. She should be worried about you being mad not her coworker

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Heck yeah! She knew you wanted to spend Saturday night with her and she put her friends first. I would be upset with my husband if he did that.

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Yes and no. It depends on how often y'all see each other. And everyone needs a night with their friends. And it seems like she was upfront with you about what she was going to be doing. I'd be sad, but not furious. Y'all didn't set plans so she may have been under the impression that they were flexible.

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Exactly right guys... She knew I wanted to do something .. And she didn't even ask if I wanted to join she jus told me .. And I was like ...... ???? What??? 
But she thinks I'm the selfish one ..
I seriously am so over this shit... 
The last time we had something planned she bailed on me and went out clubbing with her friends .. 
I should of just dropped her then.. I have been super emotional this past month.. My cat passed away and he was my world and everything .. I had him since I was 14! He was 10.5 years old and I feel like my life just wil never be the same ..
I feel like I just want to be by myself now :( cause I clearly stand second ..

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