Whenever I have sex with my husband it feels great but I never come. And recently he never helps me come before or after so I find myself masturbating all the time in order to release tension. When I try to talk to him about what I need and how it seems kind of selfish he gets defensive and says things like "I stupidly thought you got something out of sex." How do I get him to understand that sex feels great and I enjoy it but while at the end he is no longer horny I am just more horny and I get no release. Am I normal? I would prefer to come with him than my hand but a girl had needs. I want him to see that and want to make me come.