What shall I do?

Question

My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. We have lived together for the year as well. We both have children from a previous relationships but have gradually merged everyone into a little family. I want to have a baby to tie our family together and we had agreed to start trying when I finish school, but within the last year he keeps flip flopping his mind. What do I do?

Answer

Do not have a baby until both of you are 100% sure and committed to raising a child. I don't see any reason why you need to rush this decision. I understand that you'd like to tie your two families together, but I don't think that alone is a good enough reason.

Answer

The biggest problem that I see is that you are not married.  Were either of you married when you had your previous children? What if you have a kid together and he ditches you? Do you really want to put your present kids through another break up in addition to another innocent child? Think of your kids first.