Upset and need support

I'm 37 and dh is 38. This is our 5th month ttc with both of our first.

Prior to August I was on birth control pills for several years due to irregular cycles. For the most part my periods were regular in length but my level of bleeding would vary. I had been off the pill for about a year before I had a two week long af and got anemia from the heavy bleeding. So I was put back on the pill to regulate my cycles, not for birth control purposes. My dh and i met later in life, but we both want a family. I talked to my doctor about it Nov 2013 and she said our best chances would be the first couple of months off bcp because my body may still think I am on bcp and my hormones will be strongest. My dh has had trouble keeping an erection for about 2 ywars and his sex drive is diminished. I told dh we need to know what's wrong with him before going off bcp, but he is very pig headed and thinks he is always right. He is a wonderful man that is very supportive but it takes him awhile to realize when he is wrong.

I went off the pill in August 2014 but started prepping to ttc in May 2014. I read up on everything we needed to do (timing sex, opk, bbt, etc). I started to eat more healthy and even lost 15 pounds. Dh did nothing. I begged him to go get checked back in May to find out the problem. He finally did in August and found out he had very low testosterone. We found out right after I went off bcps. He started taking clomid and his numbers are finally up in the normal range but now the trouble us I am not ovulating.

From charting my bbt my first two cycles off bcp I ovulated, but the last three cycles I have not and Af keeps getting heavier. I talked to my dr about it in early November 2014 during my annual exam but at that time it was only one month without ovulating. She said everything looks normal but to come back in January if I am not pregnant, but she was sure she would see me before. She said heavy periods was a good sign cause it meant my hormones were working. So why am I not ovulating?

I am at cd 19 of this cycle and my bbt is starting to jump all over the place just like last two cycles with no ovulation. My first two cycles I ovulated around cd14. I told dh last month we have to keep bding at least every other day in case I ovulate late. He thinks we can just bd 2-3 times per month and it will happen. When I tried to explain how it works last month he promised this month we would, but when I try he is too tired or doesn't feel good. His libido has improved on the clomid, but it still is a problem, but I know ultimately me not ovulating is real problem. This morning I woke up, took my temp and still no spike. It completely freaked me out and I can't stop crying. I started screaming at him cause I am so mad at myself and him. I wish he would have done something back in may when I wanted him to, but more so I am terrified I won't be able to conceive.

I feel like no one close to me understands what I am going through. My mom got pregnant 2nd month trying and she was 28. My cousin with 3 kids had her kids in her 20s too and only tried a few months with each. I think 3 months was her longest. My other cousin is 36 without kids. She has been the most understanding but it depresses her when I share my frustration cause she wants to have a baby too and she isn't married without a so. My best friend is unmarried and doesnt want kids but when i tried to talk to her she basicly told me i was too old and why bother even trying. I feel so alone right now. I just want someone to talk to that understands the frustration. Also I don't know what to do. Do I call the dr now or wait until January like she told me? Dr gave me orders to have dh sperm tested. Does he do that now or wait til we find out what's wrong with me?