What was your first time like? Getting married on September 17th. Sex questions.

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My wedding is in 3 weeks. I'm very excited for the big day, I'm kinda scared for the big night. 
Does it hurt when he first starts to enter you or does he get all the way in or half way before it hurts?  What does it feel like when my hymen breaks? 
Will I bleed just that night?  Or will it be for a couple of days. 
What does it feel like to have semen in you? Does it burn where the hymen just broke?
What does his penis feel like? Like do they feel like hard but squishy or soft with a hard center?
He's told me he's had an erection before. I'm kind of excited to see it. I've only ever seen them in our health class. 
Gosh ... sex is too complicated. I'm more stressed over the sex than the wedding.
I'm not naive, I know the mechanics of what's going to happen, it's just different reading it on paper, and actually doing it.

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My first time didn't hurt at all, my hymen never actually "broke". My advice is to either use lube or to enjoy some foreplay so you're wet and it won't hurt. Semen doesn't really feel like anything. It just drips out of you for a few hours afterward so wear a pad or panty liner.

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Sometimes you don't even bleed, just depends on the woman. Make sure there is a lot of foreplay, lube, and no rush. It's good to communicate these feelings with your husband as well. You'll most likely feel silly for worrying after, but it's normal to stress before. Relaxation is key. Good luck and congrats girl ☺️

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Breathe, you and he might want to even just explore eachother for sometime before having sex. Doing this will help with excitement levels. 
Undress eachother. Make out naked, touch eachother before having sex. Experience oral before hand. It helps. 
If you've used tampons before, you will likely not bleed and likely not feel as much pain as long as you're relaxed. It might not feel good, but as long as you stay relaxed and trust eachother, it shouldn't be too uncomfortable.

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My first time was also the night we got married. Definitely take lube. It might be a bit uncomfortable or slightly painful the first time, but it gets better and easier. Just take it slow at first and communicate with your husband so he doesn't get a little too excited and just start going at it. That might hurt.

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It's different for everyone, but when I had sector the first time it hurt for a little, not too badly though. As soon as you start going, it'll be fine.. Also, I don't know about anyone else, but I didn't even have sex on my wedding night lol I was too exhausted. I went right to bed, while everyone else who stayed at the hotel partied all night haha

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My first time hurt but I didn't bleed. 
Just relax. Seriously relax, lots of foreplay and don't feel bad if it doesn't go perfectly.

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I didn't bleed nor did I think it hurt. If you're with the right person then you should be okay. Just try to relax and have fun together. 😊 I was nervous too but after the first time I just wanted to keep doing it haha.

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Penises are firm but somewhat spongy, as they're merely muscle and tissue engorged with blood. My first time didn't hurt, nor did I bleed. Semen feels amazing - especially 24 hours after (I find that unprotected sex with my husband results in me feeling more sexually excited the following day), and it's sensual being able to have the intimacy of him finishing inside of you. You may not have a hymen intact, and you may not bleed - hymens can break long before sex, from anything from sports to impact from horseback riding or tampons. It may sting; use lubricant if you need to and start off with plenty of foreplay. Explore and take your time.

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Ok couple of points:
Hymens don't break. They stretch. They can tear if you go in too fast or too dry. So my advice is lots of foreplay, and if you don't feel dripping wet, lube.

You may not bleed at all. But if you do it'll be a super short time. It won't be like a period.

Sex will be awkward. Virgin sex is the worst. You'll fumble around. You'll both be lost probably. He'll probably come way too soon because you feel so tight. (My first time 3 hits and done. I was so upset).

Try to breathe and relax. If you tense up, it'll hurt worse. I would suggest either you or him playing with your clit before he penetrates you. It'll take a little time to find what you like. Also, finger(s) in before penis is a good plan. Sort of...get you used to sensation of something in you.

A penis is hard but kinda spongey. I personally love the way they look. Tons of girls don't. It may be long or short or thick or thin or straight or curved. They come in all shapes and sizes. Balls too.

Try not to be too afraid. When I first started having sex I watched "cherry tv" on YouTube. It is a round table of women who talk about their sexual questions and experiences. No porn. Not too graphic. But they do answer a lot of questions I had. (I really wanted to learn/understand how to give oral. And I learned. And I'm really good now. Lol)

Don't be afraid to explore your own body a little bit in prep. You can't lose your virginity to yourself. And it'll help you know what you may like and dislike. And don't be too upset if it takes a while to get the hang of sex if you're both new at it. It's a practice makes perfect thing.

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We started with lots of foreplay, him kissing me all over. Then he used one finger, and then gradually eased in two fingers to try to loosen me up. He couldn't get three in, but I decided that I just wanted to get it over with. It hurts when the penis is about halfway in, but once it is all in the worst pain is over and you just feel a lot of pressure. I spotted for a few days afterwards, so make sure to wear a liner or you'll stain your panties like I did.
He should be as gentle as possible and use plenty of lube. Even though he was quite gentle, it felt like my urethra was bruised for several days...so beware that you might experience that pain as well.
Are you sure you want to have unprotected sex right away? Of course it is your choice, but I am glad that we had at least one year to explore each other and learn about sex together. It really is a learning process, and if you get pregnant right away, you may not get that chance.
You'll have fun seeing what an erection is like. :) I'm still fascinated a year and a half later. 😛 Have a wonderful wedding and happy married life!

What was your first time like? Getting married on September 17th. Sex questions.

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