Partner with depression has relapsed

Hi all,

Forgive me if this isn't the right place for this post but I would be really grateful for some advice.

This is really hard for me but here goes...

My boyfriend of 3 years was re diagnosed with depression October last year. Due to job redundancy but he briefly suffered years ago aswell. Last year after a terrible few weeks and painful decisions he went to a doctor and was medicated.

Since then, everything has returned to normal apart from medication stopping and he has had another job since but left as he felt the stress of it was making him go back into depression which I took as a positive as he recognised the way he was feeling.

He finds it difficult to open up and talk about his feelings, he just ignores me and everyone and spends his days sleeping, he won't acknowledge me or answer me which is frustrating but most of all upsetting but I've come to the conclusion this is the way he knows best to cope.

It was my birthday on Saturday and that day of all days he relapsed. He says I expect him to do things, which OK maybe I do but I'm not a selfish person and when you are in a relationship it's a partnership so you work together!?

After talking he realised he needs to go back on medication and speak to a therapist. He has in his head that a Dr will take him away which won't happen but he is obviously hesitant. Which I understand. I don't know whether he feels embarrassed because he opened up to me this is the reason why he is hiding away from me. Although he still shares our bed at night and I figure if he really didn't want to be around me he would just sleep on the sofa?

I am just at a loss of what to do. I don't think I have it in me to go through this again, I have been so supportive and stood by him, listened, been there, left him alone when he wants to be alone but I can't keep being ignored in my own house.

I go to work and try to keep busy so I gave him space and time alone.

Its now just getting him motivated to see someone to get additional help. His parents are aware as I felt they need to know and they are trying to help. I may get accused of getting them involved but I don't feel as though I have a choice.

I would be grateful for any advice from anyone? Like I said it's been pretty hard to share. Friends just say to leave him etc and that's easier said than done but I don't want to be apart. We decided a few months ago when things we OK we would try for a baby but obviously now this has been put on hold.

Thank you :)