Mixed children and their Culture

I am black and I am married to a white man, our baby is due in March. I plan to teach my child about both sides of their heritage. If we don't, someone else will - i.e., society, ignorant people, the media. It sounds great to say we are teaching our children not to see color. But unless you are living in a bubble that is completely unrealistic.   Yes, it will be awkward sometimes or uncomfortable... but the alternative is worse... I have too many mixed race friends who grew up either ashamed of 1/2 of themselves or feeling lost.  Teaching your child abt all of their heritage (the good, the bad, etc) isn't teaching them to see race in a bad way. It is teaching them to embrace all the parts of what makes them who they are - it is kind of amazing that we, you, me, get this unique opportunity. 

I'm not a black mom,but my husband is black and he wants to teach our son to not see ppl by a race or color,but to see ppl as ppl.we are Christians so ig that'd one reason we have a different view on this subject.he wants our son to know that he is a human made in God's image and that's what matters most.

I'm a mixed baby. I'm black and white and I grew up only knowing the white side of my family. The biggest thing for me was seeing people that looked like me portrayed as beautiful and smart and just in a positive manner. I'm planning on showing my son who is 1/4 black 3/4 white that there is beauty in all people.

Thank you all! 💙 Btw our little man is 9 months old today

You just need to teach them about both cultures. My friend is black and hubby is from St. Criox and they teach about both backgrounds. My mom and dad taught us both... all white but a few diff things. My husband is 3rd generation and I am 4th so we don't have a lot of "cultural" traditions. But I do know a lot about all of my background and I call myself mctalian... Irish and Italian mostly.I too worry my kids won't be white enough or Spanish enough or whatever. There's a Miguel song where he talks about this concept. There's a kids book called mixed me. I wanna get it one day, after my child is approached race internal conflict in school.

it depends on how your child looks. even if they are black and white, if they are not fair skinned people will never see them as just white. the darker they are, the less likely. And even mixed children can be dark. it is not always in between the parents. i say teach them both because thats who they are but be prepared as a parent. i am black/puerto rican and my husband is white. i am trying to teach him the importance of seeing both too.

This is a perfect question as my son will be mixed I am curious too. I want him to embrass all of him and not be ashamed of any part of himself and I don't want him to feel judged by one race or the other.