Changing the Cycle of WOMAN-led Abuse

I have been reading through a lot of posts on here and I noticed a very unsettling trend. I have the 26+ age filter turned on, supposedly can't see anyone younger, so I am not directing this to the young women on this app who are just figuring out what a relationship is, but to the older women in this app who should be mature enough to be aware of how their actions affect others.

 

There is a LOT of self reported emotional and verbal abuse towards our male partners on this app. Just because you don't hit him doesn't mean he isn't being abused. Going through his phone/constantly invading his privacy is controlling and abusive. Calling him names because he didn't do what you wanted is abuse. Giving him the silent treatment is abuse.

 

So, I challenge every woman on here to read up on emotional, verbal, and mental abuse. Honestly read it and look in at your relationship. Everyone can be abusive from time to time. You had a rough day and you lash out at your partner without thinking. It happens. Don't be proud of those moments, but don't beat yourself up over them. But if you see any of the habits outlined from the different forms of abuse happening more than every once in a while, please don't write it off as "I'm a jealous bitch and I don't care who knows it," or, "well that's just how god made me." Your partner deserves a safe and loving relationship just like you do. 

 

Relationships take work, let's work to make sure all of our relationships are abuse free from BOTH sides. Just because the fairer sex doesn't leave bruises doesn't mean we can't be just as damaging as the men who do.