What do you think?

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It's a controversial topic, (Not where I'm from) but what are your views on spanking?

Personally I believe in it. Just with your hand-to buttocks, not hard, and NEVER with an object (like a belt, spoon, etc. like I got in the good ole days -ouch)

I know I'll probably get "hate" for believing in it but I just don't see it as bad, as long as it's a last resort (you've tried time out, or taking toys away, etc.)

Now if you hit your kid across the face or super hard I do see that as abuse. That's uncalled for and you need help.

(Note: please don't be judgmental in comments. I'm just trying to see how everybody is different and what they believe in.)

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We spank, do time outs, take away rewards/treats... his discipline depends on what he's doing how many times we've told to do or not do something and so on. Really you can say you'll never use one form or another and you may not but you won't know what works for you until you have to try it.

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I don't think spanking is bad, but I usually use time outs or take things away or redirect, because that's what works with my daughter. Spanking does nothing for her and I was the same way.

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I grew up getting punishment by a leather belt name Mr. Softy. To a point where I had welts. 
He used his hand too but the belt more. 
I will never hit my child, I read that the hand you love with should never be the hand you hurt with, so why inflict pain on a child who just probably isn't being taught right. 
I read the 5 love languages for children and it'll open eyes on how kids really are in their heads.

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If my dad wouldn't have whooped my ass , I probably would be out prostuting somewhere . Like , he saved my life . Those ass whoopings made me straighten up , so straight I  ended up graduating high school a year early, lol

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I was spanked as a kid and honestly don't see a problem with it, but I don't want to punish my child that way. I didn't like it as a kid and it really didn't have an effect on me.

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I dont see a problem with it, my mom spanked my sister and i- my sister got it worse than me but thats cause she was a little bitch. I will spank my kids, open handed on the butt. Never will I use a belt, paddle, switch, ect. I spank, usually, as a last resort. There's only be a few occasions when we have spanked as the first form of discipline to stop the behavior and it was effective, never again had the same issue.

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Both my husband and I were spanked as children. It generally fit the crime.
I know for me personally, if I got spanked for something (open hand and my skin was maybe red for 2-5 minutes afterwards) I never did that thing again.
I think it gets a really bad rep because when some parents use it, they are simply being abusive. They don't try to explain what the child did wrong or try other ways of disciplining, they merely go straight for the spanking, which is not going to be as affective.
We've only briefly discussed it, but we'll probably spank if it fits the crime, as a last resort and if they are old enough to understand why they are being punished in such a way. 
I also respect other parents who choose not to and choose a different way. Basically I see it as, if your child is not a mini monster and you are clearly parenting them and not abusing them/leaving marks, then you do you.

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I say if you're going to spank do not use weapons

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My brother and I were spanked brutally as kids. Way too hard and for way too long. That being said, I still plan to spank my kids. Just not at an abusive level. I was 16 when my sister was born and we spanked her until she was 3 and all of a sudden said "we don't hit people! We use our words!"  So the spanking stopped for her 😂.

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Personally I believe in disciplining my children and not punishing them. We try and find things that "fit the crime" - taking away privileges, things like that. Every kid is different so you gotta tweak it. I do believe in some cases spanking is the only option but vary rarely. I was pretty much "beat" with every spanking as a child and for every little thing and if I screamed while being spanked I was spanked even harder until I stopped. I love my parents but I believe that was borderline abuse. They also had SO many rules and said no to everything. 
With my own children we try to have as little rules as possible, saying no and disciplining only if there's truly a reason for it.

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