Is he to old?

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So i need your honest opinion ladies... is he to old for me ?

so me and this guy have know each other for 3 years. about a year ago we realized that we had feelings for each other. He is in college he is going to be 20 in december. and i am going to be 16 in Jan. he tells me he loves me. i am a virgin, and he has no desire for sex, right now. He refuses to date anybody else, and claims he is waiting for me to become legal.  my parents don't know. the only people that know are me, him, and my best friend. If my parents knew, they would crap their pants. i need honest opinions what should we do ? should we continue to be a secret or what else ?

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There is no reason a 20 year old needs to be with a 15/16 year old wait until you are 18 and completely legal if that what you want but why can he find someone his own age kinda creepy hes preying on a child when hes a grown man

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My biggest concern whenever I hear that someone who is in their 20's is going for a teenager is why. What do women his age see in him that he doesn't stand a shot with them. No matter how mature you are there are life experiences that come with age. He's likely in collage (if he chose that route), has a job, car and is likely living on his own. What could he have in common with a high schooler? You are likely just becoming independent maybe getting your first job and maybe your permit. The years between mid teens and your 20's are full of growth and getting to know yourself, it's similar to the differences in your life from 12 to 16. To me that much of an age gap is likely because he's either unmotivated, or has Peter pan syndrome (he never wants to grow up). I'd suggest waiting to start anything with him until you are 18. That way it'll give you a few years to see what makes him tick, and you might be able to see why women his age don't give him the time of day. If you guys started anything now and get caught he can go to jail and have to become a registered sex offender

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Lol i went through the same thing ... There was bad endings.. Put it like this .. U still relie on your parents .. Living under they roof nd stuff nd he in his own place nd in college ? What could you do for him ? Nothing .. I kno it may seem nice but dont fall for it .. You will just get hurt

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I am 16 (turning 17 in December) & my boyfriend is turning 20 this month. We've been together for almost 3 years.. Living together for almost 2 years. It sounds weird sometimes, but i am also soo much more mature than a lot of other people my age, so honestly we act like an old married couple. I guess it depends on the people in the relationship. But if you're still depending on your parents & they don't agree, I guess it's a bad idea.

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He's is too old for you. The fact that you don't want anyone to know about him says something. To me it just shows that deep down you know it's wrong to start a relationship with him

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I think if you guys were older the age difference wouldn't matter so much. 
I think because you aren't legal yet the age difference does matter, but not in the way you think. 
I'll be honest there are a lot of relationships like this where the an older guy takes advantage of a younger girl, but I'm not here to criticize your relationship. If you are truly happy with him then stay with him just keep that in mind he could potentially just be using you. 
Now legally, you're 16, you aren't legal however if you and your partner are 1-2 years apart it's okay(I don't remember the exact specifics) and it won't be considered rape. That's not the case here so just keep that in mind. It won't be a good idea for him.
Age is just a number, you should not be trying to base your relationship on the age. Your happiness is what matters the most, so you should do what makes you happy.

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Last year I was a 14 year old freshmen and my now ex was a 19 year old senior and we dated throughout the entire year. He respected me told me we didn't have to have any sexually interactions. We loved each other we had plans for the future and talked about our lives after I graduate. But then he signed up to go into the marines and we didn't know if we were gonna make it so we ended things so neither one of us would get hurt anymore then we had. Now he's one of my closest friends but we don't see each other anymore or talk very much but I know he'll always be there for me when I need him.

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Ya I would not be anything but casual friends with him because you barely know yourself rn so I would not trust having to rely on someone his age to not play into your inexperience.

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It's illegal, so yes.

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Wait until you're legal. If he's right for you then he'll wait 😌 nothing wrong with being friends though.

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