I can't orgasm?!

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I've been with 3 guys and I'm 19 years old. My current boyfriend has been with a handful of girls that literally will come crawling back to him bc he gives the good dick. Like girls will STILL try to hit him up about it. And I've been trying to masturbate since I first started having sex a couple of years ago and I can't orgasm. Not even the guy I'm with now can make me orgasm. I've tried rubbing myself during sex, and I've tried fingering myself and rubbing myself when it's just me, and nothing! What's wrong with me! I've been told to relax and let your body take control and I've literally been so relaxed its insane and still nothing nothing nothing! Should I go see a gyno?

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I understand how you feel . I haven't had one either . I've only been having sex for a little over a year and been with two guys , but still I have yet to orgasm . I was starting to feel like I had something wrong with me , but since I've been with my new current boyfriend my sex drive has been significantly higher . We have only had sex a few times since we have been together , but I feel like once I get more comfortable with him and our sex life that I may be able to . I've read though that many women actually have this problem and sometimes it just takes a while to get to that point to find what works for each of us . Good luck to you and I hope you can find your inner orgasm :)

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Get a bullet vibrator and practice alone.  Loads of women can't orgasm during sex and I don't think I had a proper orgasm until I stopped trying to orgasm... Just enjoy it, once you stop being obsessed about not having one you'll probably relax and have one.

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Honestly this sounds ridiculous but when I first started masturbating I couldn't orgasm at all either so I researched it a bunch. I read about the practical stuff, the scientific stuff, the emotional stuff... That's not gonna work for everyone, but it helped me. The female pleasure system is a lot more complex than the male's and the nerves stretch through a lot more of your body, making it much more of a mind-body connection than for men. It's not just about what turns you on physically, though that's important too. Also, there's nothing wrong with you! I'm starting to realize this is a really common problem:( Best of luck!

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Weird but try rubbing yourself in the shower. If you have a want that can detach use it. That's what made me orgasm for the first time! Or just position yourself so the water hits you in a good spot when you are laying down in the tub👍🏻

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Well sex with someone is about the shared connection, so maybe you don't feel as comfortable with him?? 
That said, there are women that don't experience orgasms and that's completely normal,

You should try longer foreplay, 
There are about 7 different "turn on" spots on the female body that have nothing to do with the vagina or clit. (Back, breasts, arms, neck, etc..)  So try adding some touching/kissing to those areas. 
Also, wearing socks when you have sex increases the likelihood of reaching orgasm.
And oral is always another alternative, some of my friends always orgasm with oral not always with vaginal sex.

Hope this helped.

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Maybe try a vibrator? Like those little bullet ones you could try it alone and during sex , it would be a fun try

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