getting a puppy while pregnant?!?!

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So I'm 31 weeks now and we have had a 10week old puppy's r about a month now. 10weeks?!? Yes not potty trained tiny yappy Pomeranian. I wasn't thrilled with the idea of getting a puppy I wanted a dog not a pup but my husband brought him home and my toddler bonded with him she takes him everywhere. He also pees and poops everywhere. Being pregnant and a mom I'm overwhelmed I have been in tears for days because my toddler will pick up stuff she drops like food and try to eat it I feel my carpets are unsanitary at this point. I'm getting them cleaned next week but I feel how much good will it do if he's not potty trained he will just keep doing it. My husband said he would train and care for him. All he does is put food and water out for. I clean he's dirty kennel worst smell my laundry room smells like a barn. I've had it idk what to do if I rehome him I'm the bad guy but if I keep him I'm dying inside worried about how clean something is. The dog cries when he's not inside but even if he's just been outside he will come inside and pee. Am I wrong for thinking it isn't fair that not only did I not think getting a puppy wasn't a good idea at this mementos but that I'm being guilty tripped into not rehoming him. Hubs says he will train him and blah blah but he doesn't do anything with the dog he plays with him maybe every other day for like ten minutes none of the actual caring for a dog or training him. Someone please give me some advice and trust me I'm a dog lover i am but everything to do with pregnancy and toddlers mixing a puppy into that mix has been a mistake idk what to do at this point. Today I'm crying cause I had the baby's bassinet in the living room getting ready to assemble and he pooped on it and it soaked through and stained it's white and I washed it and it didn't come out idk if I'm over reacting but at this point I dont want any animals anymore

Update :
So after my husband walking in on me in tears he said he would rehome the pup and I told him I don't want to feel guilty that I was the one who wanted him gone. And he said you won't I don't want a dog to come between us. So I gave him till end of October to show he's taking care of the dog and show improvement on training. I told him I understand a puppy is a big responsibility specially since I work with dogs all day but at this point I just want to be baby ready clean house not smells and stains I can't see. He agreed I told him I'll deal with it if your doing your part but I will not deal with this exact situation with a newborn if I'm stress now caring for this pup I know I won't be able to one having a csection and two no time to be with a puppy when I have a new born and toddler. He agreed that he would start taking him out every 30minutes and put him on a food schedule. So hopefully we will see I'm not keeping my mind close I want this to work so I'll do my part I just don't want this burden to myself when I didn't agree to getting him

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If a puppy did that to my bassinet, I would of gotten rid of him in a heartbeat. Your toddler will forget about the pup within a week and you're husband is being so rude not keeping up his end of the bargain. You're not the bad guy. You're just about to be a mom of a newborn and you've got enough on your plate without having to worry about an untrained pup

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Pomeranians are very small dogs and need to go to the bathroom often. I recommend getting an indoor dog potty or puppy pads. The indoor dog potty kinda looks like fake grass, and puppy pads attract them to them to do their business. The more often the dog goes in the house the less likely you'll ever be able to train him. Dogs develope an emlimination preference at an early age for where the go to the bathroom.

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Yeah I would definitely tell your husband that since you are the one who is cleaning up after the dog and not him,  he can either hire a trainer / bring the dog to classes or rehome him.  You didn't want it in the first place so putting all the responsibility on you is absolutely not okay.  Doesn't matter if you're home all day and he's not.  He wanted the puppy,  he brought him home against your wishes.  He needs to take responsibility.

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I got a puppy a few months before getting pregnant... A jack Russell with a small amount of chewawa in him... Very energetic and needs several walks to stay calm and relaxed throughout the day... My hubby said its his dog and he will take care of him...lol... I'm home all day so I do all the training and walking all he does is night time walks and gives the dog dinner... And it's like pulling teeth to get him to walk the dog since the dog goes 123 for me and he has to do a long walk to get him to do everything! I use a large create for the dog when I can't watch him and the dog doesn't mind it since I give him treats to go in and give him positive rewards for being quiet in it... If the puppy is driving you nuts try doggie day camps at pet smart hotels or other places to get the dog socialized and out of your hair for a few hours.... I say give the puppy a chance before getting an ideas about giving it away!

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The pup would need to go! We want a labrador but have agreed that we wait until baby is at least 1 maybe 2 our toddler will be 3 1/2 also so will be a good she to introduce a pup. We came so close to getting 1 a few months ago but been pregnant chasing a toddler and training a pup is a huge thing. Talk to your husband and see if he will uphold his end of the deal if not tell him it has to go x

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I love dogs and we have two but I would suggest looking at rehoming it. If you don't want it and it's making you upset then it's best for you and the dog. Puppies require so much consistency and it's probably not going to get it if neither you or your partner are 100% behind looking after and training it.

If you do decide to keep it have dog free parts of the house. E.g. our dogs aren't allowed upstairs, on the beds etc. You can put up baby gates to keep the dog in specific areas or buy a puppy pen and put it near the back door for when it wants to go to the toilet. That way you can keep your babies stuff clean and out of the way. And for house training I'd use a crate. They are great and once you put in pillow and blankets they're really cosy. It's also a good space for the dog to go if it wants a bit of peace and quiet.

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Tell your husband to take money off his "weekly beer" (or whatever he spends money on himself for) and pay a dog trainer.

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We got a 6 week old Border collie/Queensland heeler puppy when I was 4 months pregnant...my husband always wanted to get a puppy whenever we had a baby, so the timing for the litter was pretty perfect. Fortunately we got her while I was in the "easy" stage of pregnancy so it didn't bother me to train and care for her and she's a very smart dog who was super easy to house train. I was lucky in that my husband was sweet enough to get up with her in the middle of the night for potty breaks so I didn't miss out on sleep. She is also crate trained which makes life sooooo much easier!

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That was completely unfair of him! Puppies are A LOT of work, the potty training stages especially. We got a new puppy last summer and I had forgotten just how much attention they need and all the accidents it entails for the first few months. And that was a giant breed puppy - little dogs like our other dog (still bigger than a pom although his mom was half pom) have much smaller bladders which means more accidents. As a super will-behaved adult, he still piddles in the house when gets scared or excited - what we have termed "little dog syndrome." You need to sit down and tell him what's what. Rehome the dog - either find a temporary home with a friend for the next few months until you are settled in with baby and feel up to adding a puppy into the mix - or, the easier/better route, just rehome that puppy permanently. Then wait till baby is a few months old before you adopt a puppy or dog again. He needs consult you before just bringing home a puppy like that, especially with everything you have going on right now! I would be SUPER stressed and crying if I was in your shoes, so don't be ashamed of your feelings!

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Dogs are great companions! But they need a lot of discipline esp when they're puppies.

Here are a couple tips I hope you'll find helpful

1. I would highly recommend crate training (YouTube offers lots of videos on how to)

2. Try taking puppy to puppy socialization classes. (You can find it on Yelp, and some Petsmarts does offer it)

3. Puppy goes where you go: keep a leash on handy and tie puppy close to where you  are. That way, they can't sneak off and do their business. Pay attention to when they start sniffing/doing things that make it look like they're about to go potty. Then take
Puppy outside immediately to go. Once puppy goes, don't forget to praise and give them a treat 😝

Good luck and I hope it all works out!!

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