sex vs. masturbation and sexually frustrated

Nikkkayelove💜
Ladies help! 
So I can make myself cum multiple times, but when it comes to sex he can't make me cum. I know sometimes I focus on it too much and try to relax. I have tried playing with my clit and that helps but he always finishes before I get the chance and it makes him feel bad. He tries to go down on me but is not very good at it, I get no pleasure from it. He is older than me and yes my man is blessed with a nice penis. I love giving him oral and it turns me on but when we are having sex I just can't seem to let go... Yes we have tried some toys but he doesn't like them. I'm sexually frustrated! Any tips or advice would be much appreciated! 
PS. I want to try anal but he isn't sold...
HELP!
I've also had this problem with other partners, female and male 😔