Nursing Homes and Elder Abuse

Would you put your parent or parents in a nursing home or under someone's care knowing that there are cases of elder abuse (physically and emotional abuse, stealing money and possessions, starvation, failure to provide sanitary conditions, etc.)? If so, for what reasons?

I just read about a case where 3 daughters thought someone was stealing from their 96 year old mother, who lived in a nursing home. They set up a video camera and found out that 2 caretakers were physically rough handling their mother. They poked her chest, repeatedly slapped her on the back of the head, and stuck a latex glove down her throat. She died 3 months later.

Another case, a woman was being taken care at her own home by a caretaker. The police finally inspected the home and found heroine bags on the floor, and the stick figured woman was on the couch wrapped in a blanket, the mattress was layered with garbage bags, lying in her own feces, police thought she was dead until she moved her jaw, she had open wounds infected with maggots, and there was no food in the house. She died 8 days later and the coroner only found a fruit peel in her stomach. The caretaker was also taking the woman' $1100 SSI check each month

So knowing the possibilities, would you put you parent/parents in a nursing home or facility or take care of them yourself?

This is not an attempt to shame anyone who wants to or currently has a parent in a nursing home, I just want to hear your thoughts on it as well as elder abuse.