Why am I so fucking pathetic

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Why can't I cope with being alone? I'm only 19 and can't seem to just enjoy life and chill out. I HAVE to feel loved by a man or I feel completely lonely and worthless. I date boys who, deep down, I know only want sex and stay in denial and pretend they like me for me. I really hate myself at the moment. I just want somebody to love me. The boy I like just told me he kissed somebody on holiday and I'm so gutted. Why! We haven't been on any dates yet but I'm so attached. I hate myself for being like this but I can't stop. What's wrong with me?

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You are not pathetic. You are not weird or crazy. You are only 19. I was the same way. My identity was always attached to someone else. Only now am I getting to know me and I have fallen in love with myself. You will live and learn. Just try to keep yourself occupied with things you love to do. Schedule some me time everyday to learn yourself. Once you love yourself  those guys will be trying to tie you down and you will be trying to shake them off.

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I dont think your pathetic at all.... 😪

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I felt like this whenever my hubby would go on vacation with his family in HS. I wasn't sexually abused though.

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I know this is personal,  but have you been sexually abused? I had this behavior as a teenager and i realized it was how i coped with my abuse.

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It sounds like you are co dependent. Maybe look into CODA meetings or something along those lines. A support group will help you learn how to be alone so you don't feel so frantic and out of control.

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Get your shit together

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Do you have a father figure in your life or feel loved by your family?

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You have to love yourself first. As you get older you will learn that you don't need anyone to love but yourself. I was like that since I was 15. I'm 26 and I have my son. I love him so much. My son changed my life.