I have a daughter and he has 4 children from a previous relationship. Who are mine though they're not I added that because I think that's a factor for this bean so 1 baby shower from me in 2010 and he had 1 also in 2010 we don't really do birthday parties where we ask for gifts for the kids would it be too much to have a shower I know people have varied opinions and I'd love some opinions ... His mom asked today and looked shocked when I told her we weren't having one