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Amanda
Question. Me n the hubby had a miscarriage back in april it was due on his birthday Oct 25 ..I'm ttc he made a statement earlier when I kissed him .he told me to stop that's what got me pregnant now... if I am cause he 100 right back in February. . Should I wait until I'm like 12 weeks to tell him or should I tell him as soon as I find out . I don't want to upset him if I loose it agian. .help please