Time for a break

I think that it may be time for a break. I am 33. DH is 42. TTC 8 months. Doing everything, tracking everything and getting nowhere. We saw fertility specialist. Had HSG done. All good on that side. DH gave a sample. They refuse to give results without us coming in for appt. Already waited almost 2 weeks bc dr was on vaca. All they will say is that his count is a little low. Seems like IUI may be the route, but think at this moment the money is just not there to spend on something that doesn't even have that great of a success rate. This is supposed to be this wonderful experience and time in our lives and instead it is such a source of stress and hostility. Totally not what we expected. Very dissapointed and discouraged.