First OB Appointment

I don't know if it was just me or if other people have had bad first OB visits. I was excited, yet nervous for my appointment today. When I walked in, it should have set the tone for how the rest of the visit would go. I didn't get taken to a room for 15 min after my appointment started. My blood pressure was elevated because I was nervous. When the nurse sits me down in a room, she's like I see you're here for your annual exam. I politely said no, it's my first prenatal visit. She seemed dumbfounded. After waiting another 15 min, we were told the midwife had to go deliver a baby and they would have someone else come in but would take 30 or more min. Finally someone came in and was nice, at first. I was told I was having a Pap smear. Reminded her I was there to check on my baby. The way she told me that it IS part of the exam made me realize she was no one to mess with. Told her I didn't want the genetic testing. She pretty much said with my health history I'm a fool for not doing it. My mom was adopted and I have no clue about her family, so that's why I'm a fool if I don't do it. I was refused an ultrasound today. Why? Cause it was 4:45 and the tech leaves at 5. I told her I can't come back and she told me that my pregnancy doesn't seem to be priority to me. I called my manager in tears and had to beg her to work tomorrow for me, while she was supposed to be off. The midwife never once asked me how I was feeling or any symptoms I was having. Pretty much just dragged me down the whole time and I cried after I left. The worst part is, the Pap smear hurt so bad and I'm bleeding and hurting in the abdominal area. After reading things online, I'm honestly scared I may lose my baby. Anyone have something like this happen?