Boyfriend wants me to throw away my sex toys??

Question

I am waiting to have sex until marriage for various reasons. When I met my boyfriend, I told him how it was. He agreed with me and respected my decision. In addition, we are currently in a long-distance relationship because I ended up moving. 
We don't see each other nearly as much as we used to, so, naturally, we both masturbate more often than before the separation.

I have a hard time orgasming with my hands alone, so I have a few sex toys that I use to get the job done. My boyfriend hates them and wants me to throw them away, even offering to reimburse me. He claims that nothing should go in/around there except him, and that I made a decision to abstain from sex until marriage.

I love him dearly, and I want to be considerate of his feelings, but I feel like he's trying to control how I express my sexuality privately. What should I do?

Edit: It's not just dildos. Its vibrators, dildos, etc. I asked about fingers, and he was hesitant, but ultimately said that they're okay because "they're nothing like the real thing."

Answer

It's your body. You get to control what you do with it. Also, I'd be asking myself what kind of character he has if he's jealous of toys...

Also, personally, I don't think masturbating breaks your vow to wait til marriage. People usually wait so that they can experience sex with that one other special person. You're not having sex with another person, so he's technically jealous of you. He's jealous that you can be satisfied without him, which shows a huge amount of insecurity. And the fact that he's trying to control how you touch yourself is a little concerning. How you touch yourself is extremely personal; what other personal boundaries would he be willing to cross?

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Oooh I'm torn.. I can see his side but I also don't think sex toys are that bad. You really can't get off without them?

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Sex toys and masturbation is healthy. The not having sex tell marriage has nothing to do with health and masturbation (: keep the toys, express yourself sexually how you want to. I would compare him masturbating to you, He is cuming due to masturbation, why cant you? Just because you get there in different ways doesn't mean its wrong.

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I've already commented but I'm going to again. Masturbating with toys is NOWHERE NEAR what it's like having sex. To argue that she's losing her virginity to a toy is an odd statement. Do you mean that masturbating with toys is the same as sex? Because it absolutely is not - anyone who has done both can attest to that. Or do you mean that now her hymen might be gone she's cheated him out of breaking it? You can lose your hymen through exercise so I don't even know why that's still used as legit way of measuring virginity.

Not only that, but here's the double standard. They're both masturbating, right? Him jerking off, which sort of mimicks the feeling of going in and out of a vagina, is completely cool. But her putting a dildo inside if her, which sort of mimicks having a penis going in and out, is totally not cool? What? So one person can mimick having sex and the other can't?

Also, she's masturbating with a DILDO. It's not like it's an actual guy that she's making an emotional connection with. It's a dildo, not a dude.

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Okay, I understand your side. You two aren't seeing each other much and your hormones are going to rage. So I understand that you're going to want to masturbate. 
But you have to look at his side too. You said you wanted to wait until marriage. But you're going to stick toys up you. You're no longer a virgin. So he probably feels very conscious about himself. Personally, I feel that if you're going to put toys in you, that you can have sex with him too. Just use protection.

Boyfriend wants me to throw away my sex toys??

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