Baby shower rant

So my mom said she's plan my baby shower but she absolutely nothing planned and I just hit 20 weeks. I'm starting to think I need to plan my own baby shower, I'm so upset because this my first child and her first granddaughter. She was going to plan it for February when Im due but with my last visit my ob told me I'm at a higher risk for my daughter to be born early because is was born six weeks early and my sister was born three weeks early. She hasn't set a date she hasn't gotten any decorations she hasn't said where it is she hasn't invited anyone she hasn't done anything and I feel like I'm rushed for time in a way. Am I the only one who feels this way or has felt like this