TTC after misscarrige

So unfortunately, and against our worst fears, my hubby and i lost our first pregnancy at the beginning of August. Although it came as a huge surprise, we still happy none the less. Then we found out that the development stopped at 8 weeks and i don't think we've ever been so heartbroken. So the doctor put me on a couple cycles of birth control to even out my hormones, and this cycle begins wih me trying to improve my body again before we try. And my question ladies is how did you deal with the anxiety? We're excited but also scared and TBH i don't think i could go through that whole process again. Any tips on body prep? Taking prenatal and vitex, but any other pointers would be great.