Advice during cervix exam and possibly membrane stripping?

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Those who have already experienced having their cervix checked and stripping their membranes, how do you get through it? I tense up so fast when anything is being done down there, it's hard for me to do the "deep breaths" and try and remain relaxed.
I'm praying I don't have to have the stripping of membranes done unless really needed later. 
What is your advice? My doctor will be checking how much I dialated either tomorrow or next Wednesday 😬