I've noticed a lot of people talking about how bleeding is "normal" after sexual debut because your hymen "breaks". I'd like to take a minute and let everyone know that you hymen may rip, and it may bleed, but this is because you aren't properly aroused and ready for sex. Bleeding is common because when you are with an inexperienced partner, or a partner who isn't considering your pleasure, they don't take the time to make sure you're ready. Foreplay is super important your first time and honestly every time. Your first time doesn't have to hurt! <3