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Okay so me and my man have been together for 2 years end he's very disrespectful we get into argument or I say something he doesn't like he calls me a bitch now I'm not no punk neither and he got me fucked up if he think I approve of this behavior. Now he has to wake up early at 5am in the morning to go to work and I was watching TV till 3am in the morning he told me to shut it off I said no mainly because I was mad he didn't do the dishes and I do all the house work cooking cleaning right now I'm not working so he thinks that should be my job because he works but recently got hired first day Wednesday anyway so I kept the TV on till 3am so he woke up late at 6:30am so he started getting pissed off we got into he was taking his time making coffee and I told him that you have no time to get coffee he gets mad and calls me a bitch I'm so fucking sick of him we live together I love him I do but the disrespect is tearing us apart. 
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It's never right for name calling, he is showing you disrespect. But I do think you are showing "bitch" qualities and he is trying to express that to you. Relationships shouldn't be tit for tat. I think you are both wrong.

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Well I'd be pretty pissed if I have to be up that early and my partner has the tv still on at 3am!

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I'd be livid if u stayed up that fucking late to be lazy n watch TV esp since you NOT working and he is....#1 you shoulda had his coffee,breakfast and lunch ready so he has a good day at work. #2 why the fuck r dishes in the sink when ur at home! Ayiayi ppl wonder why marriage doesn't work. You are being selfish and lazy. Your supposed to make ur other half happy each and every day. Your poor man.

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He's getting up early to go to work (which pays the bills). You are home all day, so you should be responsible for the household. If you were both working, then it's a different story, but in this case.....

Of course, it's not good that he's calling you names!

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Sometimes you really need to look within yourself and see if he is really just acting mean, or if there's some truth to what he says. It's never ok to name call, he should certainly have taken a healthier approach, but leaving the tv on until 3am knowing he has to work is extremely childish and yes it's bitchy too. Sometimes the people we love hold a mirror up for us to see ourselves. Your behavior was unacceptable.

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Name calling is wrong. But you're also being just as disrespectful in my opinion. The I'm mad so I'll keep him up because he didn't do what I wanted is childish and manipulative. Personally if you arnt working I see no reason why you didn't do the dishes. It doesn't take long and you already do everything else. I'm sure he'd appreciate it and it would have avoided an argument! Now when you're working too that's different.

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The name calling isn't right, I'd be just as mad about that. I'm not around y'all, idk yalls relationship, but in this post it seems like he would have never called you a bitch if you were more respectful of his sleep. You made that man sleep deprived because he didn't do the dishes? Then you bitched at him about making coffee when he's obviously tired and has to work? It's insane that you didn't expect him to get mad.

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My partner and I don't do that. He works all day and I'm in school and work four days a week but I take care of the household stuff. Laundry is done every day, dishes, floors etc. I don't have an issue with that but I know where you're coming from with the name calling. If my SO and I get into a fight; he says every EVERY name in the book. To the point where I want to leave but I can't. It sucks and I know how that feels.

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