Having incredible difficulties in my marriage. We have been together several years and recently had twins. Two newborns is crazy hard! I knew it would impact our marriage but naively thought it would bring us closer together. It's quite the opposite. All I want from him is to feel appreciated as I'm a SAHM for the babies at least 18 hours every day. I left my career to do this and the transition has been so difficult especially without the emotional support of
DH. There's literally no affection in the marriage- ever. And he's not even affectionate with the babies. Plus he gets annoyed if they cry and is quick to put them in a swing rather than hold and comfort them. All these little things are really getting to me. I'm starting to lose attraction for him! I'm heading into a loveless marriage and when I communicate my feelings he blames my hormones and doesn't validate them. It's like we are roommates. It's awful. We even have started counseling which hasn't helped yet. I told him my fear of not feeling love and even worse, him not being loving to our children but my fear has come true. I want our children to grow up in a loving home but they are only getting love from me. I'm so sad and confused. I told him what do I need to do to be a better wife and lovable to him and he said nothing, keep doing what you're doing. Ughhhhhhh