Sorry this is quite long!!

I usually get on well with my in-laws. Have always liked them. I mean, theyre annoying at times, but usually i just let their stuff go over my head & dont think too much about it.

However, whether its because im 38 weeks pregnant, tetchy, hormonal, whatever, or not... they really are beginning to annoy me.

My partner, their middle son, is 33 years old. They have a 42 yr old and a 31 yr old also. The 42 year old is an idiot. Only speaks to them when he wants something, is vile in attitude towards them, even text his mother a few months back saying she was dead to him amongst other awful things. & yet in her eyes he can still do no wrong. Hes also useless with jobs & money. Grows drugs and sells it for thousands at a time, but hey lets all ignore that fact because they want to turn a blind eye. Their 31 year old, they bought a 150,000 grand house for, mortgage free, he doesnt work full time, only keeps getting agency stuff in and has no ambition to do anything else. So hes constantly getting money from them and she goes and cleans his house, does his washing and ironing and babies him. Its ridiculous. The excuse is "well hes on his own" and...? He is a grown ass man. He can wash his own clothes and tidy his own house which you bought for him. The eldest and youngest also never do anything to help their parents, when it comes to doing anything for them, its never for free or just out of good will.

My partner on the other hand, is constantly trying to help them rent their commercial building out, sell their catering equipment, he works for them for free when they need jobs doing. He even pays for things sometimes when he doesnt need too as they are bloody well off and have just bought a 40,000 pound car. He is constantly coming up with new ideas to help them, he gives them good advice and as a unit we are always helping them when they need it. Not with money tho as ive said they are loaded. Yet, my partner gets invoices from them, itemised how much he owes them when he owes them. When my partner mentions getting a dog, they go on at us about how much responsibility it is and why we shouldnt get one - like we dont know what responsibility is. We have a 7 year old and a baby coming in a week. Our bills are paid by us & no one else. She has a go at him about his weight and his health, always saying hes gonna end up with diabetes and going blind or dying of a heart attack. Hes 6ft and 17 stone. I dont quite think hes there yet! When he recently lost a stone, she said he had to go to the docs as she was concerned he had lost weight.. after telling him he had too!? Go figure. They are always telling him what he should and shouldnt be doing with his money. His money that he earns everyday through his own business, that he works often 7 days a week for, because hes hard working and all he wants to do is provide for us at home and make sure his bills are also covered. Hes bought a motorbike, which is his choice, and theyve had a go at us today because he shouldnt be buying motorbikes and he should have paid them back. Even though he is currently working for them for free today and did yesterday too, whilst he is unwell. They stood in our living room this morning and said they were going to meet their youngest for dinner, and didnt ask us because they thought my partner would be at work for them, then moaned that he wasnt. Its his 7th day working, no days off this week, and hes not getting paid for it, yet they are moaning that hes not there yet. Its just ridiculous. Im.sick of them being down on him all of the time, on us even! Treating us like we are kids and dont know what we are doing, yet putting the other two on pedestals, even though we are the hard working ones who pay our own way. We dont shirk our responsibilities, we dont go asking them for anything and we dont tell them theyre dead to us. Yet we get moaned at all of the time. I seriously dont understand any of it.