is my bf a loser?

I may come off a bit harsh here so I apologize in advance. When I first met my boyfriend about 3 years ago, in high school, he was a star football player, had so many schools looking at him, tons of scholarships, great grades & just a bright looking future. By the way, during this entire time, he never had a job & I figured it was because of the late hours of high school practice + all the games which made sense. I was also always paying for everything for the both of us during these times. He never had money. We'd just met & I thought it was ok. Plus he'd let me. So anyway, 2 years later he took a full ride scholarship & went to Arkansas. Second semester of his freshmen year, he hated the coaches for being so hard on him & wanting more from him. Soooooo, he quit. He quit the team which means he lost his scholarship & became a normal student. Also by the way. He does not come from a wealthy family at all. They are beat down broke. So a scholarship was what he needed for his entire college career. And this is where I started asking myself if this is the type of man my dad would be proud of meeting. I get the whole college football thing was tough. The crazy practices and the hours & the coaches being hard on them. I get it. But hello? Life isn't easy. You'll meet so many people who you don't like but you have to work with. Your dream job might not have the best hours. That doesn't mean you quit 😐 So then, okay. He became a normal student and focused on grades. Cool. He's a good student so I let it go. Had so much time on his hands but still, no job. It was only a thought for him. Fast forward to now. We've been together 2 years & we are now 20 & well, he transferred to another college & is going to school & all. He's done with his classes at about 12pm & has the entire rest of the day to himself. By the way, me, still paying for things. And I ask myself a lot like, does he not ever feel uncomfortable? I pay for everything. And the money is not the problem for me. It's that, he doesn't make an effort to ever pay. And if it's because he doesn't have money, well he doesn't make an effort to make any either. A LOT of times he'll be like "hey let's go to eat here!!" & I'll be oh okay he must have money, so we go. We get there. He orders, I order & he steps aside for me to pay & it's humiliating. Even the people around notice. The employees, especially when it's a guy. I see it. I JUST think it's the lamest thing ever. I feel like his mother. It's NOT about the money. I'm that friend that treats my friends even though they take meee out. If you need the money & I got it, I will help you. I pay all the time with my friends because I want to so it's not that. It's just that, for occasions like our 2 year anniversary, I wish he'd pay. I wish it'd be romantic. I'm NOT materialistic at all whatsoever. But there's just this thing girls like from guys called "effort" & im not getting it. It just sucks 😭 and I have so many questions in my head. Like in the middle along these 2 years, he's had about 2 jobs that each lasted less than a month because of some excuse like he didn't like the people or the hours were bad. Like is that REALLY someone you want as a husband "supporting" you and your kids? Someone who seems to have issues holding a job?  No ma'am. It's immature & really just pathetic. I HATE that he is basically a bum in college. I dump him & in 2 weeks, he goes to only 3 classes. That is sad, lame & pathetic. The number one reason why he has not met my parents. My dad is a buisness man. I mean, are you kidding. He'll sit there & pull the interview questions on him. "What makes you different from that guy over there?" "Are you really pursuing your goals or is it all talk?" "What exactly are you doing to get there?" I'm AFRAID. Horrified. I fell in love with this great guy mannn. Basically a lie. Because after high school, everything went to shit really. It's just embarrassing. But it's hard to leave someone who was your first everything. First real boyfriend. Someone who understands your mind- different kind of intimacy that I'm afraid I won't find anywhere else. I love him but I don't love his life style & I don't love his habits.  I don't & will NOT be that wife who supports her husband & kids while he's at home, hopefully, at LEAST, cleaning the house. I will not. And yes I mentioned this once and I showed it bothers me now & he's applied to a job. The only job he could apply for because around his college, there isn't much. And I'm glad. I haven't heard anything about it yet but jeez. I'm just like grossed out. All my girlfriends think I'm crazy for letting it happen & sticking around. & I am. But I'm not one of those people who can toss something so easily. It takes me a long time to get to where I am with him now. I don't warm up to people easily. And yes even though it's to better myself really, I just can't kick him to the curb. I CAN but don't know how. Because I know I can do better lol I am so much better than this. The thing that kills me is that my parents are this succesful assssss people & expect their kids to always make the right choices & be just as succesful & I am but, he'll be my down fall. If anything, hold me back. I can't have him around doing that. My parents would be so dissapointed & disgusted if they knew everything. It literally eats me away. Also this pic is from 3 days ago. When I finally addressed it. Anyway, what do y'all think????? I'm sorry this is so long. 😭I just feel so wrong for being in this relationship that literally benefits me in no way. Ugh. And no, I'm not looking to be in a relationship for a reason but if I am going to be in one, it's like, it better be helping me grow in some way & that's just not happening here. Anyway thank you if you read for this long !!!! :)